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The 1 out of 10 guy
The 1 out of 10 guy 1200 400 Galia Brener

Sounds like a funny yet terrible nickname, right? Unfortunately this label is not a good one and stems out of desperation. I created this nickname after an observation I made two weeks ago when I saw such a man working his tricks live in action. This is a type of man that has absolutely no standards or a qualification system, because he takes anything that he can get. His only requirement is a vagina. If one is there, then he will take it. He tries his pathetic luck with every woman that his eye catches, and 1 out of 10 will take the bait and go with him! Sadville.

 

Two weeks ago, I took the ICE train from Frankfurt to Munich. Unfortunately for me, the train drivers were striking that day, and there was a big chaos at the central train station. My friend and I jumped onto the Mannheim train because we could switch to the Munich one from there. Needless to say the train was completely full. We were lucky to get a seat at the bistro wagon. Across from us, I noticed a man starring at me. He was decent looking, what some would call “average”. He was tall, had dark grayish hair and was probably in his end 40s. He was in good shape and seemed friendly. Not an ugly man who would repulse anyone, but a normal guy. (Or so I thought!). I like to watch people, especially their behavior and interaction patterns.

 

The “1 out of 10 guy” saw that I was there with a man, but that fact didn’t bother him at all. He found his way into our conversation and flirted with me right in front of my friend – who could have actually been my boyfriend or husband. But 1/10-guy didn’t care. He just went straight for his target. He did not pique my interest because there was something a bit creepy about him – the way he kept starring me up and down from the corner of his eye. I kept to myself and did not engage in the conversation, so he got the point and backed off. Within 5 minutes he was chatting up another woman, yet still looking at me while flirting with her. Woman Nr. 2 wasn’t buying his sweet talk either. Next, he simply turned around in mid conversation and started talking to the woman on his other side – victim Nr. 3! She was a bit more gullible. She was buying into his charming talk, even though she clearly saw him flirting with 2 other women, right in front of her eyes! The train stopped in Mannheim and we had to switch.

 

We found another perfect spot in the bistro wagon. And guess what? Poof! Like magic, 1/10-guy appeared in the wagon and sat at a table in front of us. This gave me the perfect chance to observe the animal in his natural habitat. We had 2 more hours to go, and I kid you not, in this span of time, 6 women came and left his table! He even tried to chat up best friends that were sitting next to each other, to see who he could get. He was like a machine. He had no boundaries, no limits and absolutely no shame! Rejection, next. Rejection, next. Again, again and again. I was shocked by his ridiculously desperate persistence. Either he was an extremely horny man who hasn’t had sex in years, or was a psycho maniac, a rapist, or this was simply his normal behavior to lure someone into bed. Shocking.

 

What was even more shocking was the last one: woman Nr. 10. She boarded the train on the last station before Munich and sat beside him. She was about his age and already noticeably intoxicated. He ordered them both a glass of wine, just in case she doesn’t sober up before they arrive in Munich! She was speaking very loudly, in order to draw more attention to her. He needed a warm vagina and she needed attention – a match made in heaven. The train arrived in Munich and they both got out together. On his way out he gave me a nasty wink and left the train. Woman number 10 took the bait. He got her. We saw them kissing and getting into the taxi together. There we have it: out of 10 women, this dreadful guy managed to actually land 1!

 

Ladies he’s not the only one of this despicable sort. There are more of them out there. They go around trying their luck, sleeping with everything that moves. I wouldn’t want to see you become his next victim. Please do yourself a favor and be more observant, watch whom he speaks to, while eyeing you. Do not go home with a man like that. I don’t mean to be vulgar, but you don’t know which holes his penis visited a few hours before! It can also be very dangerous in regards to sexually transmitted diseases or he could be a rapist. Please turn your “awareness hat” on and make sure you don’t fall for his game. Unfortunately men like 1/10-guy don’t value women very much and only see them as objects for their bodily use. I don’t want to see you getting hurt by a repulsive man like that. You have standards and should choose a man who has standards as well. The right man should make you his queen and not woman Nr. 10 out of 10. You deserve to be number 1 – the one and only!

 

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Should you try to change your partner?
Should you try to change your partner? 1200 640 Galia Brener

I’m a firm believer that very few people can truly change their character. The less minor things such as habits, ways of doings things, style, education, hobbies, interests, etc. can be modified and learned. But can one really change their true nature? My father says that a snake sheds its skin but never changes its character. I take this great analogy, apply it to relationships and ask this important question: Can you, or should you even try to change your partner?

 

Ambition. This is a strong word that has followed me my entire life. There were times when it was closer to me, and times in between when it was hiding, but ambition was always around. It allowed me to stay motivated and strive for success in times where there was no white light at the end of the tunnel. In my opinion, ambition cannot be taught. Ambition must be felt by the people themselves – as a hot burning desire to achieve, learn, create, make, earn and complete. If your partner lacks ambition and has no desire to move forward, it shall be very hard for you to motivate them to do so. Not only will they slowly start to hate you for it, but it will suck all of your energy and happiness in the process as well. We must realize that not everyone wants a big career, has a goal or dream to follow, or has a purpose in life, which they want to achieve. Some go with the flow and see where they end up, without any plans or structure in their lives. If you choose such a partner, this should be apparent to you from the beginning, and such extreme laissez faire attitudes can rarely be changed. I like to say: a chicken cannot fly. It has small wings, but it cannot take off from the ground and reach a high altitude. Don’t push a chicken to become a soaring eagle, because it simple cannot! The chicken can learn the “theory” of flying, but in reality, they will not master the “practice” of flying. Some are born chickens, and some are born eagles. And it’s ok like that.

 

Self-confidence. This is a tricky one. I myself had a battle with this when I was younger. This is not something that comes easily to everyone right away. Sometimes it takes years for it to build up to a healthy level. You can support and compliment your partner a hundred times, but if they don’t feel inside how wonderful they are, then it will be hard to get through to them. This is really a self-battle, so it will be hard for you to change them to see themselves differently.

 

Responsibility. This is something that is obtained intuitively and from the family at a younger age. If you start dating the person and you see they are careless and irresponsible, then chances are that it will not change – especially after their late 20s. This is also an important point if you want to get married and have kids! It’s hard to do that with a person that is irresponsible for themselves and others. Don’t be in denial, accept it as a fact and decide if it’s good for you to have them in your life or not.

 

Cheaters very rarely change. As well as liars, egotists, users, fakes, players, moody people, narcissists or the ones that that simply don’t want to work or study. However, bad habits that can be changed are things like lack of discipline and punctuality, unhealthy lifestyle, not being a good listener, spending money one doesn’t have, addiction, showing off, aggression, etc. The best you can do is to give advice and help, and try to guide your partner in the right way. However, if they are not open to self-improvement, then there is nothing that you can do.

 

The hard part is that we sometimes see so clearly what our partner doesn’t. We want to help them. We want to advise and give them support and guidance. However this not always wanted, accepted or needed by them! I myself am one of these people that learn the hard way, after something bad or extreme happens. After I fell down a few times in my life, I finally understood what needed to be changed. There are many like me that need to hit the bottom to be able to jump back up – and even though you see this with red warning lights, the other person may not! That can be horribly tough on the relationship.

 

Always remember that perhaps your guidance and your way of life do not fit theirs. What’s good for you is not necessarily what’s good and beneficiary for them. At the end of the day, we met our partners and fell in love with them how they are. Why is there always the bloody need to change someone and shape them into your own image of perfection? Yes you care for them. Yes you want to help them. My suggestion is after you try to help, and nothing changes, you either accept them as they are, try to compromise with your demands on them, or let them go and find someone who fits you better. But if you keep on pushing and pushing them, then nothing good will come of it, except much emotional and psychological stress to you both.

 

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Why do we chase the ones that don’t want us?
Why do we chase the ones that don’t want us? 1200 750 Galia Brener

Dear ladies and gentlemen, this is an article for you both. Why is it that sometimes, the ones we want don’t want us, and the ones we don’t want, actually do want us? It has been studied for many years but no perfect formula has been written as to why this happens. Can it be that we love a challenge? To conquer the one that seems unreachable for us? Or to know that we can have whomever we want to? Is this an ego issue? Or maybe it’s an excuse to not start something serious because deep inside we know that it will never happen? Whatever the reason is, I sit here now on my white leather couch and ask myself, “Why do we waste our time and chase the ones that don’t want us?!”

 

A perfect example for this is my friend Heather. A few months ago she met a really good guy. He was everything a girl could ever want. He was charming, funny, successful, classy, caring and more. However, she was not so attracted to him. They met at a good friend’s birthday party. Jim laid eyes on Heather the first second she stepped into his friend’s flat. He offered to hang her coat, made them both a drink, and they sat down to chat a bit. The hours flew by, and they ended up talking all evening. Healthier felt so comfortable and relaxed while talking to him. She was able to be herself and was not nervous around him at all. She always feels comfortable when she’s not into the guy. However, when she’s attracted to a man, she becomes very nervous and shy. She then starts to talk quickly and looses her true self and charm in the process. With Jim it was different. She felt normal and easy around him, like with a good friend.

 

Heather agreed to meet Jim for dinner the next weekend. He picked her up and took her to his favorite restaurant. He treated her like a princess the entire night. He ordered champagne and everything that she wanted on the menu. And topped it off with the most delicious hot chocolate cake. He tried his best to make her happy. They laughed, talked for hours and had a nice dinner. Heather was having fun, however she was thinking of Robbie the entire evening. Every hour, she looked at her phone, but of course Robbie did not write her. She has been waiting for his text or call for many days now. It drove her crazy that she always had to wait so long to hear from him! They went out a few times, but it was always many days or even weeks after their dates until he would show a sign of life again. Robbie didn’t make any effort to keep Heather in his life. It was she that ran after him. He only texted her when it was convenient for him, which was not very often!

 

Later that night she called and told me about her evening with Jim. I also know her “Robbie situation” and told her to forget him a long time ago! I told her to give Jim a chance, because he sounded like a good catch. However she was not attracted to him. What a damn bloody shame. She tried going out with Jim a few more times, but she never felt the desire to rip his clothes off and ride him! She didn’t feel that good pain in her stomach that made her crazy with lust. Yet every time she thought of Robbie, she would get wet within a few seconds. She wanted him so badly! It was driving her insane.

 

To make a long story short, Heather dropped Jim and continued chasing Robbie, who didn’t give a damn about her. Eventually they met again, he screwed her and called a few weeks later in the middle of the night, wanting only sex. Of course she wanted more from him and was hurt. She gave up on a good guy to chase an evil fairytale. But guess what? Heather is not the only one. Many men and women that I know had a similar experience, myself included! We are often automatically drawn to what we can’t have. The less they want us, the more we want them. Actually it’s sick, but that’s how our brain and heart works. What’s even sicker is that as soon as you stop trying, sometimes these people turn around and start running after you!

 

So I ask myself again, why do we chase the ones that don’t want us? We only end up getting hurt in the process. Sure you might get them for a night or two, but usually if there is no interest, it’s rare that they change their mind and stay with you for the long-term. They end up leaving and hurting us badly in the process and even destroying our self-esteem on the way out. The “Chasing Game” might be fun and exciting at the beginning, but it gets tiring really quickly, not to mention that for some it can develop a bad complex. I have learned that it doesn’t pay off to chase someone that doesn’t want me. I made a deal with myself to never do that again. Why waste time, energy and constant thought about someone that doesn’t care about me? It only makes me feel worse and no happiness will ever come of it. If they don’t want you, then it’s their loss and not yours! What makes me feel better is to realize that I am not everyone’s type and not every type is mine. Or like a good friend of mine says, “You win some, you lose some.” The best solution is to move on and make yourself available for someone who actually makes an effort to be with you! Heather now regrets not giving Jim a real chance. But he moved on already, and it’s too late. What a shame. Learn from her story and don’t miss out on a good partner.

 

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LOVOO party in Barcelona – Mobile World Congress 2015
LOVOO party in Barcelona – Mobile World Congress 2015 1200 720 Galia Brener

I have to start this article by stating that not only does LOVOO know love, but they can also throw a wild unforgettable party that will leave you begging for more. I set off on Tuesday to Barcelona not knowing what to expect and was very pleasantly surprised! LOVOO was having their first WE❤MOBILE event, together with Adjust, during the mobile world congress.

 

Upon arrival at the Shoko club on the beach shores of Barcelona, I was greeted by two flame jugglers on stilts. As I stepped out of the black car, their mesmerizing flames lured me into the venue. I was welcomed by the friendly LOVOO staff, already waiting with a cold glass of Champagne and was shown the club downstairs. The location was very beautiful, with three large bars, a dancing area, 3 VIPs areas and a nice green garden terrace. The people gathered in the enclosed terrace, eager to discuss the recent achievements and success of LOVOO – which currently has 25 million registered users. As we can see, the quest for love has never died, it just shape shifted to fit our new era – love online.

 

The first thing that caught my eye were the gorgeous half-naked ladies waking around the club and entertaining the guests. One was more beautiful than the other and even a blind man would turn around to gaze open-mouthed at them. Servers dressed in black were making their rounds with delicious tapas on their trays. There was a sushi bar, cheese buffet and Serrano ham freshly cut for each guest. Every few minutes new scrumptious dishes were offers to us, along with any drink our heart desired. They took really good care of us and made all the guests feel welcomed. My favorite was the mini burgers with red buns! The red buns matched the spicy red-hot love party. More people were arriving and the networking started. I met many interesting people form around the world, who represented a variety of industries from tech startups, app creators, actors, CEOs, writers, bloggers, entrepreneurs, investors, mobile pros, techies, programmers, sales executives, models, rappers, etc. Including me, “the secret agent of love” – walking incognito and researching amongst them.

 

After a few hours of networking, eating and drinking, Shoko filled up and everyone moved to the dance floor. Even the flame jugglers were dancing in the middle of the crowed. I noticed that many people had their LOVOO app on, looking for potential matches at the event. Some men wrote me and it was fun trying to recognize them inside the party. That’s the good thing about the live-radar function, you can see who is directly around you, send them little flirty messages, and see where it leads you. A super fun idea to use the app at the event – everyone enjoyed the mix of networking and flirting!

 

Then all of a sudden the lights got dimmer and a familiar voice started singing in the darkness. It was Ryan Leslie, doing was he does best, rapping his lyrics and making the people wild for his sound. The girls were screaming and the guys looked on with admiration. He definitely has a special aura around him. The beautiful hostess girls doubled up as go-go dancers, and made a circle around Ryan. The people went crazy. Forget Vegas, and welcome to the LOVOO party in Barcelona! I was very impressed by his performance and that he flew to make this private show for LOVOO – that definitely says a lot about this special dating app – everyone loves it. I could not stop dancing for hours. I felt it the next day after rocking the dance floor the entire night in 13 cm heels – always a sign of a good party.

 

As I was leaving the club, I was flashed by the huge amount of people at 3am in front of Shoko. Apparently everyone wanted to be at the LOVOO party, and it was definitely the best event happening in Barcelona that evening. A girl outside begged me to give her my VIP wristband. I tried to get it off for her, but it was on tight and I ended up sleeping with it. What can I say, LOVOO you guys rock. Thank you very much for inviting me to a fantastic event that I will remember for a long time. It exceeded all of my expectations and was definitely worth flying a thousand miles for. Bravo for being not only the love experts, but also the pros of bringing people together – LOVOO connects lives. As I mentioned last week, this app is definitely worth trying. I met some very nice people on there and I can recommend it for some nice potential dates as well. You never know, your soul mate might be LOVOOing at the same time as you are, so go online and find her/her. Good luck and have fun!

 

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Online dating apps
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With our fast-paced lives and daily obligations, who has enough time to go out a few times a week to meet new people? That’s why online apps have been on a huge rise the last years. Instead of getting off your tired bum, making yourself pretty and going out to meet a new partner, you can click through thousands of profiles online, in the comfort of your own home, in your favorite pajamas! The best thing is, it’s not embarrassing anymore, because almost everyone is doing this now. So if you’re curious about online dating and want to give it a try, I have tested out a few options and came up with a summary for you.Tinder. This is the most popular dating app in the last year. Everyone seems to be on Tinder, even grandfathers of friends I know! It’s a high-speed app, like eating a burger at a fast food place – quick and dirty. However, there are those rare diamonds hiding amongst the pervs and one-night-standers. If you have enough patience to click through and choose a few good matches to get to know better, then you might get lucky and find that diamond. Be aware that once you click the red “X”, you cannot find that profile anymore. It’s gone forever. So click slowly. It’s quite basic, you can either click the “X” or “♥” on a profile suggested to you. If both you and the other person pressed the “♥”, then you have a match and you can chat. This app is free of charge.LOVOO. Similar to Tinder, but with many more enhanced features. Here you have a live radar that lets you see who is currently around your area. It’s fun if you’re out with your friends a want to see who is close to you. Another thing I really liked, because I prefer tall men, is that you can see more info about the person – like their height and weight, job, education, what they are looking for, their interests, smokers or drinkers, etc. You need some credits to send people kisses, but you get free credits at the beginning, so it’s enough for a while. You see who “liked” and “looked” at your profile, and even if you press “X”, you can still find these people again within the system. I found many more users and options on LOVOO than on Tinder. There are also a few strange people here. One guy offered to be my slave. He said he would clean every inch of my floor with a small toothbrush, lick my toilet and polish all my shoes. And like a good slave, he would sleep outside in front of my house. In the cold. Naked. Why pay for a cleaning lady when you can have your own young male slave? For this he wanted to get punished, but I couldn’t beat a man, so of course I had to refuse! ;-) But seriously, don’t let that scare you away. From all the hundred messages that I got, he was the only creepy one. I also talked to a nice sales executive, doctor, lawyer, engineer and other normal, nice people there, and it’s free to use. It is definitely worth taking a look at.Parship. To be honest, I found this site a bit boring. I didn’t like many of the profiles, and most were hidden because at the beginning I was not a paying member. I wrote the administration and they gave me a 3-day trial for writing my article. The people didn’t answer so quickly, and there was a general stiff feeling to it. I didn’t find enough profiles there that really impressed me. I’m sure that many of you ladies don’t want to pay that fee to meet men. The costs are 25 – 50 euro a month, depending on the length of the membership.

POF. Short for “Plenty of Fish”. This app is similar to LOVOO, however I found that the quality of the users was quite low here. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone looking for a long-term relationship. Many people sign up there for fast sex and one-night stands (ons). I didn’t find anyone serious and interesting to talk to. This app is free of charge.

SeekingArrangement. This is a very different kind website. It’s for sugar daddies seeking a sugar baby or sometimes even a normal relationship with a girl that he can spoil. (Or for a sugar mama seeking a toyboy). The men show their income and net worth on their profiles. There are men on there that have anywhere from half a million to over 80 million dollars net worth. Crazy. Many of them are very handsome and offer the women trips around the world, allowances, presents and a nice easy life, in return for their company. A man offered me an allowance of 8000 dollars a month to be his sugar baby. When I read this I almost fell on the floor! I didn’t accept it, but it was nice to know that I could still compete with the young hot 20 year olds on there ;-) I was curious to see how these men are, so I chatted with a few, and even skyped with one. They seemed quite normal to me – just men with lots of money, looking for an intelligent and attractive woman to spend time with. They explicitly said that they don’t want professional escorts and prostitutes – just normal girls that want a fun life and need financial support. So girls, if you want to have fun and travel the world with a hot rich man, and don’t mind getting financial support and gifts for your company, then that’s your website. The men have to pay, and the women don’t pay to use this website.

The one common thing in online dating is that you have to be really patient. Have enough time to browse through hundreds of profiles and chat with many people. I have to admit that there are some strange and crazy people on these apps, but in between the freaks, you will be able to find some wonderful and beautiful diamonds. It’s possible to pick out the crème de la crème people that you like best, meet a few and see what happens. You have to ask them the questions that are important to you. Like if they are looking for something for serious, if they are single (there are some cheaters there!) what hobbies they have, jobs, dreams, goals, past dating experiences, etc. Don’t be afraid to ask what matters to you.

What often happens is that you will have many chats and your concentration will scatter to many people. Therefore, pick out your few favorites and get to know them better. Otherwise, you are lost in online dating oblivion, have 50 chats and end up not meeting anyone.

It’s not embarrassing and many people are dating online these days. Maybe your soul mate is on there? So why not check it out for a few days and see what the hype is all about? Good luck!

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Romance never dies! ♥
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