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October 2, 2015
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A Man’s “Open-Window” for Marriage

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Have you ever wondered why some girls meet a new guy and everything works out very quickly? In a matter of months they get engaged and start a wonderful life together. Well, it’s not just about getting lucky – it’s about meeting a man in his right time. I call it the “window” because every man has his window, or time frame, when he is willing to get married and start a family.

This reminds me of a situation with a friend’s cousin. He was dating a great girl for over 6 years. She was waiting for the moment when he asks her to marry him, but unfortunately it did not come. He was even mean enough to ask her to loose weight. She complied with his request but still no proposal came from him. One summer day he went out with his buddies and met a new woman. He was very fascinated by her, and couldn’t stay away from this woman for more than a day! He was mesmerized by her character and values. He broke up with his girlfriend and moved in with this new woman within a month. A year later he asked her to marry him. Now they live in a nice house and are happier than ever. Unfortunately his ex is still devastatingly heartbroken! I asked him why he didn’t marry his ex? He said that he was not ready back then. Granted, the new girl was different. She was independent and very unique, and she met him at the right time. She caught him when his window was open!

So where is the fairness in this? One woman wastes years and years on a man, and the other meets him and gets married within months! I realized that it’s not about the luck, but rather about the timing! I for example, would not date a man for 5 years without knowing that it would lead to marriage. This is a waste of time, and girls we know that we are not getting younger. So why spend your time with a man that doesn’t plan a future with you? Sure, there are rare cases when you date a man forever and suddenly he decides to make a true commitment and get married. But unfortunately I hear more stories where nothing happens after years, and eventually the couples break up, like the story of my friend’s cousin.

My advice would be to talk about this earlier on in the relationship. Open communication is extremely important. It’s crucial to say what you want, without being scared to lose your partner. After one year, you should be able to tell your man where you see this relationship going. A friend of mine told her boyfriend of a year that she is not the kind of girl that can be in a relationship for many years without a marriage commitment. She let him know earlier on what she expects from their partnership. Half a year after that conversation he asked her to marry him. He wanted her in his life and knew that she would not wait forever. However, he didn’t feel pressured by this talk. He was simply ready for this next step, so he did it!

Ladies, please do not fear to lose your man. Be brave enough to tell him what you want! If he truly loves you, then he will want to spend the rest of his life with you anyways! If he respects you, then he will not make you wait for 5 or more years before giving you a ring. Sometimes men also need a little push. Not an aggressive demand, but a hint that you can imagine more with him. This also shows him that you are a serious woman. Of course not everyone wants to get married, but if you do, then why restrict yourself? Why get stuck at 45 years of age with a man whom you’ve dated for 7 years who doesn’t want to get married? Your life is in your hands, so make the best out of it. What you decide for yourself is how you will live your life, so please choose well!

I can only suggest that we must speak up! We have a brain and mouth to use. We have the ability to say what we want and when we want it. The biggest mistake to make is not to communicate to your partner what you want. To sit and wait for years until he “magically” decides to marry you is not a solution! Unfortunately not everyone has the power to speak up. Many are scared if they say they want marriage, the man will feel pressured and back out of the relationship. This is also a good test to see how much your man truly loves you. If a man has a strong love for his woman, then he will definitely want to make her the mother of his children. If not, then it will take him ages to marry her, and there is actually no guarantee that he will marry her at all. It’s like playing Russian roulette, so why take the risk? Talk to him and see where it’s going. Don’t be afraid, if he truly loves you, then he will understand. If not, then be happy to get rid if him! Why give yourself to a man who doesn’t appreciate it?

If you’re single and have the wish to get married, then be very observant of the men you date. Check out if he mentions children and parenthood. Does he speak of marriage positively, or about his married friends? Does he hint that he would also like to be a husband and father someday or even soon? Does he plan long-term with you? Does he integrate you into his serious life plans? After so many years of dating, I can tell quickly when a man is ready or not. You have to pay close attention to his deeds! Does he show you that he is serious about you? Men really do have an open window of opportunity when they want to get married. When their career is established, when they have achieved what they want and are ready to settle down roots. It’s all about the right timing. You don’t have to give up your dream of marriage and family. You have to choose well and “feel” if your guy is ready and is marriage material or not! Have faith that you deserve the best, and it will come to you. Never sell yourself for less than you deserve!

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Galia Brener
September 25, 2015
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FASH’N WIESN 2015 – Frankfurter Oktoberfest

FASH’N WIESN 2015 – Frankfurter Oktoberfest https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Frankfurt_Oktoberfest_2015.jpg 1200 400 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6b3c30409447e0934687cc99e8de2f5b55073cba434755f667a8866cc6f3d66b?s=96&r=g September 25, 2015 November 9, 2015

Frankfurt is not just about bankers, the skyline, Handkäs, Grüne Soße or Ebbelwoi. This city is so multicultural and versatile that even the Munich celebrities are coming to our Oktoberfest! Yes, you read that correctly. Frankfurt has its own Oktoberfest, and every evening for 3 weeks, our tent gets hot and stays sizzling until the very end! However last night was the wildest of all nights, when the VIPs, celebs and local Frankfurt heroes came out to play at the yearly event – the Fash’n Wiesn!

Frank Kuhlmann had a busy few weeks with his glamorous event organizations. Last night was his Pièce de Résistance, as he brought us all together for a night to remember! Doing what he does best, Mr. Kuhlmann made sure that the energy was buzzing, and his guests were happy and excited with the evening escapades! We had an amazing time at his table surrounded by gorgeous models, actors, professional athletes, singers, writers and entrepreneurs. It was a magical evening because it appeared that everyone had a permanent smile on their faces. The vibe of the party was extremely contagious and one could tell that the people really enjoyed themselves. The band was rocking the stage and everyone was dancing and having a fabulous time! What I also love about our Oktoberfest in the Hausmann tent is that one can order the traditional Bavarian food, but also have the delicious Frankfurt dishes on the side as well. This way you get the best of both worlds. Needless to stay, we tried almost everything on the menu last night!

Walking around the authentic Oktoberfest tent, I bumped into a few friends and acquaintances that I have not seen in a long while. I really enjoyed catching up with them and having a nice drink to celebrate our friendship. I find that it’s really important to take care of and invest in friendships – this way they stay a lifetime with you!

I don’t know what it was about last night, but it seemed like the entire tent was in Flirting-Mode! Everywhere I looked I saw people kissing and dancing very close to each other. Maybe it was the passionate scent in the air, or the love-laced Mass beer, but last night was definitely an evening where the Love Gods made their presence known – and their target was the Oktoberfest in Frankfurt! I don’t want to know how many children were conceived after midnight in the city last night!

I was really lucky because I had the chance to wear a special dirndl. It is a one of a kind design by my friend Shanty Sutadji – owner of the label Shanty Dirndl Couture. I also wore her design last year and what I really love the most about her dirndls is that there is only one of each kind! So ladies, you will never ever have the situation when you are at the Oktoberfest and someone is wearing the same dirndl as you! Shanty’s dirndls are all handmade with love and passion for design and details. My pink one last night had intricate elements of silk, hand-sewn roses, Swarovski stones and enough lace to make even Marie Antoinette jealous! Thank you dear Shanty for making such a beautiful dirndl for me!

After a few rosé champagne glasses with the girls and some innocent flirting in between, I decided that all good things must come to an end. The others made their way to the Matrix Pop Up Club, but I heard my bed and leftover sushi in the fridge calling my name. Thank you to all my friends and acquaintance for making my evening so happy, lovely and warm! I wish you a nice weekend dear friends and readers :-)

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Your Gali

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Galia Brener
September 19, 2015
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Best Friend or Enemy?

Best Friend or Enemy? https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Villa_mirror.jpg 1200 400 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6b3c30409447e0934687cc99e8de2f5b55073cba434755f667a8866cc6f3d66b?s=96&r=g September 19, 2015 September 19, 2015

Be careful whom you let into your life, because some women are cruel, egoistic, conniving and have an ice block where the heart is meant to be – and they will stop at nothing to get what they want. They are like a vampiric hurricane that storms into your life, sucks out your energy, destroys the love you have with your man, copies your identity and style, kills your good friendships and contacts, damages your career, ruins your life and “innocently” walks away after. Can an evil friend get away with such brutal behavior, or will Lady Karma eventually catch her by the hair and make her wish that she was never born?

This brings me back to a very unfortunate situation that my friend Ambrosia went through last year. She had a good friend whom she has known for many years – let’s call her “GreyMouse”. These two did everything together and were the classical definition of best friends. One day, Ambrosia met a really wonderful guy. They fell in love quickly, and started a warm, passionate and intense relationship. They had some occasional fights, but the love was strong. GreyMouse started acting strange towards Ambrosia. She felt the strong jealousy coming from her and GreyMouse was saying and doing things that hurt her. However, Ambrosia has a good heart and let a few things go, keeping in mind that GreyMouse was supposedly her “best friend.”

One day the bomb was dropped! After a year and a half of being together with her man, Ambrosia was trying to keep the relationship strong because they had some fights and problems along the way. They were at a very sensitive point, where a drama could destroy their bond. That’s exactly what happened. One evening they went out for dinner in a large group. GreyMouse sat beside Ambrosia’s boyfriend, and she was flirting with him while some funny stories were told. She wrapped her hands around his biceps saying how strong he was, and even poked her finger inside of his shirt, joking about his muscular hairy chest. Ambrosia hated it, but let it go, knowing that she was her good friend. Later on she saw GreyMouse talking to her guy outside, and wondered what the secrecy was all about. As she approached them, she heard GreyMouse saying, “…but you have to know something about Ambro, she likes to argue, have fights and needs drama in her life! She lives on it.” Ambrosia stopped mid-step and felt like the Earth was removed from her feet. What a vicious betrayal! After that sentence, her guy looked at her with different eyes.

They broke up a month after this scenario, and in their last fight, he said, “GreyMouse was right! You just love to argue and need this drama in your life! I don’t want this anymore.” That hit her like a block of cement on the face! GreyMouse implanted a “thought” in his head that night and he subconsciously accepted it as a “fact”. His mind registered: “If her best friend says this about her, then it must be true, because she knows her better than I do, so I will believe it.” Then it was over.

Ambrosia was destroyed for many months after that. She took the breakup very hard and was not able to move past it for a long while. Her heart was shattered into a million pieces! Why the hell did her friend say this awful crap about her to her boyfriend? What was the need to betray her in such a cruel way? But such evil actions never go unpunished. Karma will always show up and do her work properly. She is a lady on a mission and she misses nothing and no one! Sometimes it takes a week, sometimes it takes years, but Karma’s work always gets done! Evil also has a way of functioning like a boomerang – and it will strike back the person that released it in the first place. Months later, Ambrosia heard that GreyMouse had some misfortunes in her life.

Ladies, please choose carefully who you allow to enter your lives. Not everyone is genuinely happy for you! – Especially not those evil women pretending to be your good friends. Therefore, share as less as possible about your life and relationship details. The less personal information you expose to such snakes, the less jealousy and destruction will occur. Unless it’s a super trusted old friend, otherwise keep your business to yourself! Open up your eyes and pay attention to the small signs and things these people say and do. If you feel that something is not right, it usually isn’t. If you see there is too much jealousy and negativity, the best method is to remove them from you life immediately. Hatred and jealousy should not have a place in your life, and you must not let such people close to you, otherwise you will regret it. Like my Mama always says, “Who needs enemies if one has such evil friends?” Remove poisonous “friends” out of your life – the sooner, the better!

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Galia Brener
September 18, 2015
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IAA Diary: Tuesday 15.09 – Maserati/Zegna party and the pre opening of the Matrix!

IAA Diary: Tuesday 15.09 – Maserati/Zegna party and the pre opening of the Matrix! https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Maserati_Matrix.jpg 1200 400 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6b3c30409447e0934687cc99e8de2f5b55073cba434755f667a8866cc6f3d66b?s=96&r=g September 18, 2015 November 9, 2015

Frankfurt was wild on Tuesday night. It seemed like the entire city was on edge and nobody wanted to sleep at all! The weather was getting a little colder, but the amazing events in the city made everyone hot with excitement. I was happy to have my best friend join me for an unforgettable evening in our favorite city! We planned this crazy little adventure from the first day the invitations arrived.

Our first stop was the chic Ermenegildo Zegna store located on the Goethestrasse. This fabulous Italian designer – who creates timeless pieces for men – joined forces with Maserati to bring us the glamorous Italian flavor on this chilly evening. As we arrived the store was already full and popping at the seam with Frankfurt VIPs, celebs and stylish cool people. The location was lined up with beautiful new Maseratis outside and men with chic black Zegna suits protecting them. Knowing my love for cars and choppers, I got stuck in front of the cars, observing every little detail and gadget – I was very impressed! Inside the mingling was already strong in action. As we stepped in, we were given a glass of cold rosé champagne and delicious bites of Venchi Italian chocolates. Not to be missed in action were both CEOs – Gildo Zegna and Harald J. Wester of Maserati. The guests were enjoying themselves – drinking and shopping simultaneously, smiling and having a good time. The event was organized by Frank Kuhlmann, who did a great job of bringing the interesting people together. I enjoyed looking at the new collections that Zegna had on display. I fell in love with a particular dark gray wool suit – fit for a king, or at least James Bond! I was happy to see many of my acquaintances, which I have not seen in a while, chat with them about life and also meet new interesting people.

As the hours passed, we had to rush to the next event, which was the pre opening of the Matrix Pop Up Club. I didn’t know what to expect but was very excited to see the venue, because Madjid Djamegari was posting little teaser bits on Facebook during the week and the photos looked fantastic! The Matrix concept was brought into life by the Gibson Club and Audi – two brands that are definitely in the lead with trends and innovation. When our car dropped us off at the pop up location at Ludwig-Erhard-Anlage, we couldn’t help but get excited about the view. The entire building facade was glowing a bright crimson red! The front lawn was decorated with a hot red Audi R8 to match. It looked like we arrived at Dracula’s winter palace. As we walked down the red carpet, we were greeted with open arms by a smiling and very happy Madjid, along with Markus and other men in black. We had a nice chat outside and the gentlemen welcomed us into their special event.

The beautiful new Audi A4 Quattro was presented on the ground level in the middle of a bright white spherical area. The contrast of the red car in the white dream-like sphere was amazing! The surreal journey was starting. We were handed a white Audi bracelet, told that this shall be our close companion and guide throughout the night. The elevator doors had white laser lights and a bright red interior, which took us to the top level of the adventure. As we got out of the lift and stepped into the room, it was indeed like stepping into the Matrix! My breath was taken away for a few seconds. We found ourselves inside of a large dark round room, with an intrinsic dome roof. It was made of many squares that got smaller towards the peak. On these squares were numbers and digits running down, like a code being generated in the Matrix! It felt like being in an ancient building in Rome, but directly in the heart of Frankfurt! DJ duo Andhim were situated in the middle, surrounded by a large bar area. The floor had computer motherboard-like marks, which were glowing with interchanging white and red lights. On the outer edges of the room, there were futurist virtual reality stations, waiting to take the VIP guests on an Audi tour in another galaxy. On our way to the bathroom we stumbled into a secret room with black light activated art on the walls. There was a bar with a huge variety of gins and tonics. Apparently this was the infamous gin room offering its many different delights.

We met many friends there and everyone was excited about this amazing pop up club and opening event. I haven’t seen Frankfurt this excited in a while. There was even a cool area, which offered fresh pulled meat burgers and other tasty delicacies. The DJ team did an excellent job of playing a nice deep house set, sensual and rhythmic, just the way I like it! All of a sudden, everything went pitch black, our bracelets started flashing a wild sequence of white and red colors and the dome roof came to life! It was glowing, flickering and changing with intense colors – a light show to remember! Everyone was cheering. Wow what a rush! I couldn’t get my eyes away form the dome, I was hypnotized! The drinks were flowing, the beautiful people were happy, chatting, networking, flirting and dancing. I would highly recommend for you to visit the Matrix Pop Up Club before it’s gone – it will surely be an evening you won’t forget!

The party was still going strong, as I was getting ready to go. I didn’t want to leave the matrix yet – I wanted to stay in this magical wonderland forever. But the clock struck 12 and Cinderella had to run home. Dear Frankfurt, you never cease to amaze me with your dark delights, your bright surprises and your ability to metamorphose like a radical chameleon. I love you, my favorite small cosmopolitan city with a big attitude.

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Galia Brener
September 11, 2015
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Commitment Phobia

Commitment Phobia https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Roses.jpg 1200 400 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6b3c30409447e0934687cc99e8de2f5b55073cba434755f667a8866cc6f3d66b?s=96&r=g September 11, 2015 November 4, 2016

Welcome to an era where some people think that being single is a luxury. Whereas marriage with children for them is considered as slavery, or even worse, a prison sentence! My single friends say that commitment has become an old-fashioned theory of the past. What is happening to our society and why are people so scared of the “C” word? Could it be that in the near future, we will only be able to read about commitment in history books?

My friend Gloria was dating an executive director of a very well known bank in Frankfurt. They met at the JFK bar of the magnificent Villa Kennedy hotel. He was sitting at the opposite end of the bar with his colleagues and she was there with her best friend. “Tony” is a very powerful and well-known man in this city, but Gloria didn’t know who he was. They hit it off right away, talking about travel, culture and art. She was very opinionated and had a lot to say – that amused him very much. She was a hot little firecracker, he thought. He took her out to lovely restaurants and treated her to delicious food and wine. He tried his moves on her, but Gloria didn’t want it to go too fast. She always made the same mistake in the past by sleeping with men too soon. However with this one, she decided to take her time. Tony was very turned on by this. The more she said no, the more he wanted her. Four weeks later she decided to finally sleep with him. After a long romantic dinner, they went back to his flat. They hardly made it upstairs and started undressing each other in the small antique elevator. She accidentally ripped his shirt buttons and her friskiness drove him wild! They had sex three times that night, and stayed up until the morning hours, talking about life, love, honor and adventures. She felt at ease beside him. He caressed her and his gentle touch confirmed his feelings towards her. She left his flat the next day skipping and singing, elated with happiness!

She waited for his call that evening, but her phone did not ring. They met a few days later, but she felt that everything has drastically changed. There was no more romance or effort on his part. She felt it was over and this feeling made her sick to her stomach. He was cold, distant and even a bit mean to her. Gloria called me crying desperately. “Why?!” she asked. “What did I do wrong?” She said they had such nice deep conversations, shared secrets and dreams, had so much in common and had such fun together. She thought that he might be “The One”. She was devastated. She couldn’t eat or sleep for weeks. She felt so hurt and betrayed, but worse of all, she felt used. Gloria is a great woman – she’s smart, attractive, warm, funny and very feminine. What the hell was wrong with Tony and why did he do this to her? A few weeks ago he looked her straight in the eyes, saying how much he liked her. But month later, she saw him with three different women. Is Tony simply an asshole, or is there another reason behind his disgusting behavior?

What is the real reason behind fear of commitment? I came up with three possibilities:

1. People are looking for “the next best thing.” Some people have a constant sick need for something bigger, better, sexier, richer, funnier, skinnier, curvier, younger… more more more! Since everything is offered by the masses these days – like on Tinder – there are limitless possibilities and temptations everywhere, so people think to themselves “Could I do better?”. There is nothing wrong with searching for the right one, but to the temporary “place holders” you are dating, you might actually be their dream partner! Therefore tell them right away so that you don’t hurt and damage them! For the ones suffering in this situation, open your eyes to the truth. It happened to me before and I know it hurts like hell, but you can’t force love. Don’t you want someone who truly loves you, and not someone that you have to run after and feel stupid doing so? Respect yourself and know your worth. Move on.

2. People have been hurt badly in the past and are scared to go through that pain again. What about, “No risk, no love”? Getting hurt is a bitch, but we have all been there. (Some like myself, even more than once). I tell my friends to find their courage and get back into the boxing… or rather, dating ring. It’s a 50/50 chance to get beaten up again, or come out as a champion with the love of your life beside you. You must allow yourself to have another chance in love. Don’t turn into a victim full of anger and bitterness. Lick your wounds, gather your strength and go back out there again!

3. People want to simply enjoy the sex buffet with no strings attached. The Internet offers lots of fresh meat… oops, I mean flirts and dates, everywhere. When going out, some even offer themselves on a platter, “Take me, take me!” If you want to enjoy the sex buffet, it’s your right to do so. But let the person know in advance and don’t give them false hopes of a future together – don’t hurt people, be fair and honest! Don’t do what Tony did to Gloria.

If you want a serious long-term relationship, stay away from the people with the above mentioned symptoms. These “illnesses” do not have an over-the-counter cure. Fear of commitment is extremely difficult to cure! My advice is to listen to your gut feeling. Put on your magic glasses, and look carefully through the “Lens of Truth”. Play Sherlock Holmes, and pay attention to the small things they say or do, because the truth always comes out. Don’t be fooled by their words – actions speak louder than words – so pay close attention to their deeds. Also look carefully at how they act around their family, friends, animals, children and elderly people. Take your time to get to know them better before offering your beating heart.

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Galia Brener
September 6, 2015
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Apéros Bordeaux – Party in Frankfurt on Sept 10th with a French twist!

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The long-awaited event “Apéros Bordeaux” has finally made its way to our cosmopolitan little city with a big attitude. This evening will be presented to us with a delicious variety of Bordeaux wines, DJs spinning their hypnotic chill-out sounds, tasty culinary delights, dancing, networking and maybe even meeting a special person for a flirt or more!

Ladies put on your nice dresses, killer heels and make your way to The Cooking Ape at the Walther-von-Cronberg-Platz 2 on September 10^th, starting at 7pm. For an entrance fee of 5 Euro, you shall receive a savory glass of Bordeaux wine, which is the perfect way to jump-start your evening and leave all the office worries behind you. Gentlemen, leave the ties in your car and come dressed with your best smile on, because this will be a night to remember!

The 5 Stations concept is super cool – think of it as your own little adventure to France, but all in the comfort of our favorite city in Germany! You have the chance to taste a variety of affordable Bordeaux wines in a relaxed and fun atmosphere. Upon your arrival, you will receive a Wine Passport at the first station Bienvenue, which is your magical entrance to the world of Bordeaux experiences. After a glass or two, make your way to the Photography station – where you and your friends can have your photos taken with funny accessories in front of stunning Bordeaux scenery. These photos will be available to you later at www.aperos-bordeaux.de, where you can download and share them online. The third station is called Smell, where you can open up your senses to the fine Bordeaux aromas. Next comes the Taste station, where you can learn about winemaking, experience the grape type and see if your date has good taste. If everything smells and tastes the same to him/her, then you know what to expect with the kissing. Next! New date and next station! Last but not least is the Foodpairing station, where you can discover the unique variety of wine aromas combined with delicious and exotic dishes to tickle your taste buds.

VIP entrance to the event: if you register in advance online at www.aperos-bordeaux.de, then you get priority entrance without waiting in line, plus have the chance to win 1 out of 12 surprise packages, including a variety of wines and the chic Apéros Bordeaux glasses.

100 Bordeaux wines to discover: 100 wines are selected every year in the price range of 5 – 29 Euro, for you to enjoy at the Apéros Bordeaux event. You will be enticed with a selection of fresh white, rosé and fruity red Bordeaux wines for you to taste and savor. More information about the different selections is available online at: www.bordeaux.com/de/weine/auswahl

Bordeaux in the City: September is Bordeaux month in Frankfurt! In cooperation with 25 selected wine merchants and restaurateurs, you have the chance to attend various tastings and wine seminar in the city. Details available online at: www.bordeaux-in-the-city.de

I am very happy to announce that Frankfurt is finally getting on top of the Bordeaux wine and culture experience, with the help of this fabulous Apéros Bordeaux evening. I am always on the lookout for new and exciting events in the city, and am happy to share this unique one with you! I am really looking forward to taste the different wines, dance to the melodic lounge beats, socialize and meet new people. You never know who will drop by – maybe even Prince Charming and Ms. Right! So join us and find out.

Looking forward to see you all there,

Your Gali.

Galia Brener
August 28, 2015
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Don’t fight, talk it out!

Don’t fight, talk it out! https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Jaguar_EType.jpg 1200 400 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/6b3c30409447e0934687cc99e8de2f5b55073cba434755f667a8866cc6f3d66b?s=96&r=g August 28, 2015 November 4, 2016

Love is a wonderful thing, because it inspires one to be the best they can be. However, love alone is not enough to make a relationship successful. For this, love’s best friend, named “Communication” must come in and do its support work.

Unfortunately today, more people tend to break up, rather than fight for their love. It’s almost as if we are losing our energy and willpower to hold onto this concept. Giving it up and resting for a bit sounds like a real relief. “So what?” we think, surely the next one, or even a better one shall come along? However, that is not always the case. When did we lose our ability to open up our mouths and tell our partner what we need, feel and think?

An acquaintance of mine, lets call her Carla, is married to a national football player. When they first met, they were crazy about each other. They had wild passionate sex in every place imaginable! After a while, the sex went from everyday, to twice a week, and eventually twice a month. It was horrible, because Carla felt rejected and unattractive. This pushed her to do strange diets, which made her walk around constantly hungry and aggressive. Her self-esteem vanished and she even considered some unnecessary plastic surgery to make her husband hungry for her again! One day, we were having lunch, and I told her to sit down and talk to him like she was doing with me. I told her to pretend that he is just her friend and spill her guts out to him. Carla was horrified at this idea, thinking that he will use her honesty against her in some future argument, or that he will think that she is weak and pathetic. Finally she had the nerves to do this. After a bottle of Barolo, Carla opened up her heart to him. She told him things that she never told another living soul! She told him about her insecurity and fear of losing him. He was sure that she would have another hysterical fit like she always did, but this time she stayed calm. Her honest and relaxed way of speaking both surprised him and deeply touched his heart. He admitted to her that he was depressed because she always walked around the house angry and didn’t seem to notice him at all anymore. Plus she lost so much weight and he missed her curvier figure. Carla was so happy to hear this! At the end, both were suffering from the same reason. Lack of communication and honesty! Ever since that conversation, they have kept their communication lines open and are happier now than ever! They saved their love!

We have many reasons for lack of communication with our partners. Perhaps we are scared to lose them? Or don’t want to start a fight again and again? Or we feel that they wont understand us? For example, you two are going out for dinner and you make yourself beautiful. He comes home after a long day at work, gets ready for the dinner, and doesn’t comment on how amazing you look. You ask yourself, “Why doesn’t he compliment me anymore?” This makes you sad. You are quieter than usual, and he senses the tension between you. He asks what’s wrong, and you say…”Nothing.” Ladies, we have all been there. Maybe not in this exact situation, but we have all been guilty of saying, “Nothing is wrong”, when in reality, you want to hit him on the head with your purse, like those grandmothers in the classic movies! Wouldn’t it be nice if men were really as psychic as we wish them to be? In reality, they have no clue what the hell is going on in our heads when we say, “Nothing is wrong”, while we are boiling inside! Of course it’s easier to go and complain to our friends about him, but this will not solve the problem. Instead, take the situation into your hands, open your mouth and tell him what’s wrong.

With every misunderstanding and fight, you add “frustration drops” into an invisible bucket. Eventually it gets too full – meaning that all the crap adds up on top of the other until it eventually blows up into a huge argument – which may lead to a separation. I also made the experience that men simply shut down at displays of hysterics, screams, emotional outbursts, bitchiness and accusations. Pick a time when both of you are in a good mood and start the conversation in a calm and relaxed way. Do not do this directly after a fight, because both sides are still angry, and open communication will not work properly. Hurtful words will be said because that’s when the evil ego is at its strongest – waiting to defend itself and attack! Wait until the emotions and temper have cooled down.

Open your mouth and talk. Try to get over the stupid ego and open yourself up to your partner. If they truly love you, then they wont judge you. By the way, same rules apply for friendships, work situations, family, etc. Be the smart one and start a new way of open communication with the ones you love. It’s worth it! Besides, you will see what a huge relief it is to share your true thoughts, feeling and fears. Don’t fight… talk it out!