July 2013

Let’s talk about the oldest phenomenon. It’s the longest lasting “trend” since the actual existence of trends, hypes… actually, since the existence of human beings! It’s wonderful, keeps you in shape and makes your skin glow. It creates intimacy in partnerships and basically, it makes the world go round. What is this curious phenomenon? What could be so good that it has been the talk of all media, science, biology and history? Well my lovelies, it’s Sex of course!

Everybody is thinking about it, likes to engage in it, but most do not talk openly about it, especially in their relationships. “Pillow Talk” can do wonders for your love life! Bring in some more lust and playfulness into your life. Next time you are having dinner with your man, slowly stand up from your seat, walk seductively to him and whisper in his ear how much he turns you on. Then go back to your seat and continue eating, with a mischievous smile on your face! Make the blood race through his veins. It’s ok to be a bit provocative. It does not take away from your intelligence or sophistication. It does not make you look cheap. It allows you to express your sensual side, which every man and woman has, but many keep hidden and buried deep inside.

It’s time for me to bring you out of your comfort zone ladies. How the hell is he supposed to know about giving you your best Earth-shattering orgasm if you do not share with him what turns you on, or where exactly you like to be touched? Men are not psychics, and every body is different. He wont just “automatically know” what’s your favorite place and how to be touched. You must tell him, or even better, show him! It’s fun to explore together! This path to complete intimacy strengthens your bond, and lets you share and experience new things together.

My friend Jilli dated a very famous German actor. When they met, she had no clue who he was because she was not familiar with the German celebrity scene. For her, he was a sexy guy that she met at a charity event. He was extremely handsome, and had a really special charisma about him. He was tall, handsome and had a very masculine face and body. His dark eyes burned right through her body, and make her shiver every time she looked at him. After a few weeks, Jilli couldn’t wait to finally get this hot fellow into bed and have wild sex into the early daylight hours with him. One Saturday night, after a long dinner in his favorite Berlin restaurant, they went home, and started getting undressed in the hallway of his building. He kissed her roughly on her soft lips and pinned her up again the elevator. She ripped open his shirt and touched his muscular body, gently biting and licking his strong chest. Jilli was wearing a skirt, so he pushed aside her panties and stroked her with his powerful hands. It felt so good, she stared moaning. Jilli was very wet! The elevator arrived, and they ran to his flat. He picked her up in his arms and threw her playfully onto his bed. She undid his pants, and screamed for him to enter her. She felt ecstatic for the first few seconds, but after some minutes, the magic died. The sex was awful! She was so disappointed after waiting for so long. They tried a few more times, but eventually they separated because she was not happy in bed with him.

It’s a damn shame. If they had spoken about what they like in bed, and what turns them on, maybe they would have been able to rescue their love life and keep the fire bright! Instead, they just avoided the subject and let the passion die. Dear ladies, please don’t make the same mistake! For example, if your guy is shy, take the lead and send him a seductive sms. Or even better, leave him a naughty and provocative voice message. Humans are physical creatures. We like passion and excitement. Don’t be scared to tell him what you want in bed. Talk about sex! It will be a magical elixir for your love life. If you’re feeling especially bold and daring, order a nice love toy, and surprise him. Ask him what his fantasies are. Tell him your most intimate fantasies. This will help you build trust and grow closer to each other. Learn how to talk dirty in bed.

A huge reason for cheating is because the passion dies over time. Why not spice up your love life, and keep it fresh and alive? You are not only doing this for him, but mostly for yourself! You also want to feel sexy and desired, don’t you? So make yourself desirable. Buy a nice lingerie set that will make him forget his own name. Wear it out the next time you go for dinner, and flash him a small piece of the lace on your bra when he is choosing his dessert. Then go home and have mad passionate sex with him. Believe me, he will have you on his mind all day at work and when he comes home. You will feel like the goddess that you are. Sex heals the female confidence, sex rejuvenates, sex adds years to your life. Sex is fabulous, and must be explored.

Be daring and be the first one to initiate sex with your man. Do not always wait for him to make the first move. Wake him up in the middle of the night by touching him where he likes it most. Flirt with him in the car while he is driving. But please do not make him cause an accident with your hot teasing words. Kiss him wildly on places where you would not normally do so. Give him a massage while sitting naked on him. Make him go crazy for you. You are a woman, and you have magical powers. All women do. So why not use them? Go ahead, don’t be shy to talk about sex. You are a mysterious tiger, so don’t be scared to unleash that wild side within you. Have fun and enjoy!

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You are standing in front of your closet full of clothes, and of course find nothing to wear. You have a date in 30 minutes! You tried everything on already, and nothing seems to fit right. The little black dress is suddenly too “little”, your favorite jeans are not giving you the long-leg effect anymore. What is going on? You are nervous because of your hopes and expectations. Let your hair down and relax. Mystery-Man didn’t deserve your worries just yet.

From my personal experiences, I noticed that my best dates were when I didn’t care too much to impress the guy, and was just super relaxed. My horror dates were when I was really nervous, and tried to appear perfect to the guy. Another mistake I made in the past was to agree with opinions my date had, even though I did not share the same point of view as him. I thought that would make me lovelier, and it would seem that we have more things in common. Wrong. This would eventually catch up with us, and fights would occur. Ladies, please voice your opinions, especially if you really like the guy. Don’t be afraid that he thinks you are stupid or silly because of what you say. Do not agree with everything he says, unless of course you actually really “do” agree with everything that he says! Yeah right. Besides, most men actually enjoy an intellectual challenge. So let him fight for it girls!

Order whatever you feel like eating. Do not worry that you must look cute in front of him by ordering something small that you can eat in single tiny bites. Who cares?! Order a huge pizza if you feel like it. Another funny thing I noticed, the bigger and messier meal you order, the cuter it looks to the guy. Men like women that are not afraid of eating a huge burger or bloody steak. It makes you look real and nonchalant in a positive way. I call this soul food. Eating what makes you happy to satisfy your soul. Everything is good in good measures. Keep a good balance in life.

Try not to drink too much alcohol. Getting drunk on a date can cloud your judgment and make you do things you can later regret. I don’t want to sound old-fashioned, but its better if you wait a bit before you have sex for the first time with him. Unless you are just looking for a sexy fun time, that’s ok. If you want more from this guy, then waiting a bit is really better. What worked best for me was to get to know the guy, spend some time with him, and let the chemistry and tension rise. Taking your time will show you if this man is really for you or not, and also make the first time even more exciting! Men are lovely creatures, yet quite simple in their thinking. “If she jumped so fast into bed with me, she has done the same with the men before me.” Of course there have been marriages after one-night stands, but quite rarely.

Ladies, use your most charming and erotic weapon… your smile! There is nothing more enchanting than an honest, warm and sincere smile. Always works like a charm! During a conversation: look directly into his eyes, give him a seductive smile, drop your gaze down for a second, then look back up at him, and tilt your head to the side. This move kills them!

Please do not mention how cool and fabulous you are. Do not show off about all of your achievements on the first date. Avoid the feeling that you must impress him or else he wont like you. It’s not true. If you truly are fabulous, he will see this within the first 10 minutes of your conversation. Let him sweat a bit by trying to impress you! After all, you are a goddess, and he has to feel lucky and priveledged that he has such a wonderful woman by his side. Men like a healthy challenge, and want to know that they have the best woman of all, so let him work at charming you into being by his side.

Try to keep a relaxed and positive atmosphere. Life is not always a walk in the park, but he doesn’t have to hear about all of your illnesses, debts and tragedies directly on the first date. If you will get closer, you can open up your heart to him in the future. At the beginning, keep it light and pleasant. Complications are a huge turn off to both men and women. Everyone has enough baggage already, so they don’t want to adopt an even heavier load on the first date. Believe me, he will run away, and so would you. The other way around ladies, avoid being an emotional garbage can for these “troubled lost-soul” men. The broken ones are extremely hard to fix, so unless you want a life-long project instead of being happy, then go for it. Good luck Miss Doctor. Don’t forget, it’s your life, and it’s your decision. Choose well, or regret later!

If he bores your panties to death, and you need to escape, talk about your ex boyfriend, repeatedly check your mobile phone, write text messages while he is talking to you, and profusely yawn in your seat while slouching. This should do the trick. If you like him, please try to refrain from the above. Especially mentioning how large your ex’s, um, water gun was.

But to be quite honest, it doesn’t really matter what you do or not do on a date, because if its meant to be, it will be, and you will be happy together forever… even if you squeezed the ketchup from the bottle all over his face instead of on your burger! ;-)

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It’s 9am on a Saturday morning, and your grandmother just called because she wants you to help her pick out that “ever-so-trendy-grandma-purple-hair-dye”. Two hours later your best friend calls because her boyfriend cheated on her with his childhood friend George. You meet her in the city for emergency cheesecake and sparkling wine. Five hours later you leave her happily drunk at home and finally have the chance to pick up your dry cleaning. Guess what, the store is closed already. You rush home to change because in an hour you have a date with a man you have been looking forward to see for days now. You put your favorite outfit on, hoping that this guy will be a good one. You hear the doorbell ring. After an hour into the date, you notice how much he is in love with himself, and your excitement disappears. You make up an excuse that you have to finish helping the technicians at NASA early the next morning, and you run out of there. You finally arrive at home and drop into bed. What a tiring day after such a stressful week.

The next morning your mother calls. Then your brother calls and asks to pick him up because his car broke down, again! Your landlord calls. No hot water for half a day! Your toaster burns the last slice of bread you have. You remember that you didn’t finish that last part of your presentation for your meeting on Monday. You think it will take an hour to finish, but 4 hours later, it’s evening again. You are left with 3 hours on a Sunday evening before the stress week starts again. STOP. It’s time to reprogram yourself.

One does not live forever. More than a third of the day is spent working. The remaining part is spent sleeping, eating, making love, going out, doing stuff for/with people that you do not always want to do. So how much time is there leftover for you? You grew up hearing that you must not be selfish. Sure, but there is a time when you have to say stop. It starts with learning to say “No”. In the beginning it won’t be easy. People will get angry with you. But you must think of yourself. You need to make time for yourself, and do the things that relax and make you happy. It’s time to be more selfish. Your “true” friends and family will understand this.

Do not spend all of your time and energy on your partner. Do not depend on him for true happiness. This has to come from within yourself. Many women rely on their partner to fill a void that has been there for a long time. You must work on yourself that this happiness comes from within. Hard but absolutely necessary. Your partner is a bonus in your life, and not the meaning of your life. Get rid of those expectations that as soon as you have a boyfriend, you will be happier and more satisfied. If not met, expectation can leave you hurt and devastated. Sure, having a partner will bring new excitement into your life, but never make the mistake to rely solely on your partner to make you happy. Your partner is not Mother Theresa, and it’s not his job to turn your life into a fairytale. However, if you really want to, you can do this for yourself.

Get a hobby. You enjoy eating? Take a cooking course. You like art? Try painting. You like words and can get lost in them? Then take a pen and write something down. Make a date with yourself to do something that you love, which brings peace and happiness to your heart and soul. You like to stay fit? Try Kung Fu lessons. I loved it. It made me stronger, faster and happier. You like fashion? Take a Sunday design course. You want to upgrade your education? Take a weekend or evening course. Do what makes you happy. Be selfish! It’s your life, and you have only one to enjoy now! If you do not know which hobby to do, then try testing many things. A few hours here and there, and eventually you will find something that you like.

Eating makes me happy. I take the time out everyday to enjoy a lovely meal and not feel guilty about it. Of course we all want to look and feel great in our skin, but please my dears, do not deprive yourself. Know your limits and enjoy yourself within these limits. Sit and read a book. Make a beauty Sunday with a relaxing bath or hot shower, facial mask and cucumbers on your eyes. Whatever you do, just take the time out for yourself and take care of yourself. Especially us women, we tend to nurture everyone else, and often forget ourselves in the process.

Next time you pass that store, go in and buy those shoes you have been looking at for weeks. What the hell do you work so hard and suffer for? Of course this does not mean that you must go crazy with shopping, but once in a while, you can treat yourself. You deserve it. I always say it’s better to have a few less cocktails or dinners while going out. That adds up at the end of the month, and you can get those lovely shoes. Saving is important as well, but sometimes buying a new thing works wonders to heal the soul. Even if it’s small and not expensive, you feel that you treat yourself, and it’s a good feeling.

Girls at the end of the day, who will take care of you if not you?! It’s great having a good man, family and friends around, but at the end, its you with yourself. Build up this relationship with yourself and make it strong. You will always be there for yourself. Be strong, loving and caring towards yourself. It’s time to truly start loving yourself.

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(A note to my German readers: in English slang, the word “Bitch” means “Zicke” – but not only in a negative way. She’s a strong, independent woman that knows what she wants in life!)

You pass a couple on the street… and there we go again! A mousy or bitchy girl with a fantastic guy! You wonder what the hell is she doing right that you are doing wrong? You think to yourself, why don’t men like the good, honest, kind and sweet girls? Why do the bitches get all the good guys? If you ask men, most will say that they do not like bitches, and want the good girls. If this is really true, then why do most of the good girls end up with a broken heart?

This reminds me of a story Jilli told me about a very successful, well-known Frankfurt businessman. They dated for about a month. When they met, she wasn’t sure if he was right for her. She decided to get to know him better. At the beginning, he was crazy about her. He was calling and writing her all the time, sending her flowers, and romancing her. As the weeks passed, she was slowly starting to fall for him. The crazy thing was that as soon as she started showing him more affection, it pushed him away and he became colder. One evening, he was supposed to pick her up for a dinner date at 8pm. It was already 9pm. 3 hours later she still didn’t hear anything form him! She was worried sick that something happened. She called him a few times but his phone was turned off. At 1am he called saying that he had to stay longer at work. The sad thing is that Jilli’s friend saw him that same evening sitting intimately at a bar with a girl, who happens to be notorious in Frankfurt for her bitchiness and superficiality!

So what does this mean? Must you become a bitch from hell to get a man? No. Stay lovely and fabulous as you are. I am not one for playing games, but there are a few things you can do to bring out your “sweet-bitchy-strong” feminine side. Most importantly, know your own self-worth. If you treat yourself with dignity, pride and respect, so will he. Guaranteed! Good men notice such things and like when women respect and take care of themselves.

Feel free to be a tiny bit bitchy and tell him when you do not agree with his opinion. Show your intellectual side. However, don’t disagree on purpose just to contradict him, that’s simply childish. Disagree when you think you can show him another good point of view. He will welcome the challenge and find it refreshing that you stand up for what you believe in. Stimulate his mind! Some make the mistake of agreeing with everything the guy says in order to seem easy-going and agreeable. No. Hell no. You have your own mind and opinion to realize when he is wrong. Compromising is good, but don’t allow him to break you. You have no time to waste with Dorian Gray who is in love with himself; and himself only!

Girls, I know we have hormones that run wild at times. But please, do not overreact too quickly and lose your temper. Do not create unnecessary dramas or scenes. In a disagreement, stay calm, cool and collected. Men shut down as soon as they hear the first scream. You are a lady. You don’t raise your voice or freak out. You are a strong woman above this. Try this method of calm discussion and see how impressed he will be. You will get your point across better this way.

Don’t act desperately, even if you’re crazy about him. Don’t call him a hundred times. Don’t be afraid to lose him. Fear is our big enemy! Let him try to reach you, and make the effort to romance you. Some women make it too easy for a guy, so he doesn’t even have the chance to pursue them. Let him be a gentleman and do what he must to charm you. If he likes you, believe me, he will try to do everything to impress you. If not, he is simply not that into you, or he is a coward, which is even worse! Then you definitely do not need him! Don’t overflow him with too much love and attention too fast. This will suffocate you both. And worse of all, you will fall in love, and he might not turn out to be the nice, warm, decent man you thought he is. Take it slower in the beginning and give yourself time to get to know him.

A new hair cut, high heels to make the legs look longer, make up, etc. are a bonus, but not the main things that make you strong and confident. This comes from who you are as a person and a woman! You should feel fabulous without makeup, in old leggings and sneakers (the ones without that grotesque heel please!). Make an experiment: on your next date with him, go with a ponytail, your glasses on, a pair of old jeans and a dab of natural lip gloss. If he doesn’t go crazy for you in this form, he doesn’t deserve you. Never tolerate disrespect! Most likely, he will like you like this even better than made up. Silly men! They prefer sneakers to beautiful Louboutins? Astoundingly yes, they do. How mundane, but that’s why we love those strange creatures so much.

Last but not least, don’t be fully dependent on him. No matter how close the two of you get, have your own life and be your own person. Do your job properly, have your hobbies and meet your girls regularly. Your true friends have always been there, and will always be there for you. Do not forget them, even thought you want to spend every spare minute with your sweetheart. I made this mistake once, and noticed how it backfired. Keep your life as a confident strong woman. Don’t drop everything just for him. Men are sometimes like animals (sorry guys). They love a healthy challenge, and go crazy after something that they cannot completely possess. I am not saying to play hard to get, but please do keep your own life, identity, and be a tiny bit more mysterious. Show him your morals, values and depth. Show him that you have a lovely life full of happiness and wonderful things. This way, he will feel proud and privileged to be a part of it!

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Are you ready to find that strange addictive drug everyone is gossiping about, called “Love”? But where do you go? Just a little friendly warning, your dream partner will not be dropped from the heavens above into your living room. You must be truly emotionally open for it, and leave your flat once in a while. Couch surfing will not bring you closer to your mermaid.

I will start with my favorite thing in the entire Universe: Food. Honestly, who does not love an exotic meal, with unique smells and tastes they never tried before? Food unites people, especially those who truly enjoy it! The Kleinmarkthalle in Frankfurt on Saturdays is perfect because you can browse the aisles filled with delicious fresh food and handsome men. These fellows actually attempt to cook, and are not scared to burn down their flat. That’s 2 bonus points for bravery! Have a coffee in the market, it’s a perfect place to see and be seen. I would also recommend taking a cooking class with a good chef. You can meet someone nice with a similar hobby, and maybe make you own “Crème Brûlée” together at home, if you know what I mean! You can also try art, photography, language, music, dance, and acting classes.

A grocery store is full of opportunities. Best time to go is after work, around 7 – 8pm. Accidently drop your bacon on his foot, or let him reach for a bottle of wine on a top shelf for you. Even if you can reach it yourself, ask him for his help. Men like to feel needed, and will be glad to help you. Then start a casual conversation about wines, white or red, which country you prefer best, etc. Don’t forget to show your pretty smile. Nothing is sexier than an authentic, warm, friendly smile!

After all this eating, you must burn off the calories. Where? At the gym, golf course, or yoga class. I personally prefer Kung Fu, because I love action, and sparring with men is really fun. You get to punch, kick, and see how the sexual tension rises! If you see someone you like at the gym, make eye contact with him/her. Do that several times, and in the last few times, smile sweetly and look away. Men are hunters in their nature, so allow them to make the first move, and effort to get you. Be sweet, open and friendly, but don’t overdo it. Let them be the ones to charm you! Also, do not underestimate a nice jog, or walk in the park with your dog.

After all this physical activity, it’s time to rest and visit a nice bookstore. Sit on a couch and browse through the book you want to buy, or maybe have a coffee and muffin at the bookstore café. Women: go to the cars and sport sections of the bookstore. Men: go to the cooking, gardening, etc. sections. You never know who you will lock your eyes with there! Art, travel, photography, design, architecture, fashion, etc. are also wonderful areas at a bookstore to meet interesting people. Maybe try to finally fix up your home and go to a hardware store. You will find many big steel hammers there… go and have fun!

After fixing your home and reading the books, it’s time to put on your favorite outfit and go out with your friends. Nice neighborhood cafés, bars and lounges are always good. Ask the sexy man standing beside you at the bar what he is drinking, because you want to try something new. Give him a warm smile and say thanks. If he’s into you, he will continue the conversation. If not, it means that he might be taken, shy or is not into you. If he is shy, try to make eye contact a few more times, and see how he responds. Smile at him so that he sees that you are into him. This will help him work up the courage to talk to you. Men and women need reassurance. It’s normal to be scared of rejection. There is nothing wrong in showing someone “subtly” that you are interested in them. Try to attend private house parties with friends. It’s great meeting friends of friends, because you know that you will most likely meet nice quality people.

Special events like wine or whiskey tasting are fabulous to meet your new love. You can taste delicious new brands, ask questions, laugh and truly enjoy yourself. Go to an old-timer car event with your brother, and meet new men. Or take your best buddy and go on a ski holiday. You are assured to bump into some fun people on the slopes or at the Après-ski bars and resort areas. This will be a guaranteed amazing time, and will give you a chance to bond with your friend.

This might sound old-fashioned, but a church, synagogue, etc. are great places to meet someone who is serious, and is looking for a life partner, rather than a few nights of wild fun. Community service, like helping the homeless is also wonderful, and good for your karma! Art exhibitions, museums and galleries are excellent for meeting someone interesting. Talk about the crazy painting that’s in front of you, and try to make each other laugh by describing the silly things you interpret in it. Flirt and enjoy yourself. If things flow smoothly, go for a coffee afterwards.

Remember dear boys and girls, if s/he does not flirt back, it’s not the end of the world. There are so many wonderful places to go to and lovely people to meet. The partner that is meant to be for you will enter your life when you least expect it! Do not be sad if it does not happen very soon. Everything happens in the right time and place. Give it some time, and enjoy your single life. Then one day, you will bump into him on the street, or at a boat party, and you’ll know he’s the one. You will see! Be happy and exude positivity! Happiness attracts happy people.

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Living in a time, which is already considered the “future”, we are surrounded by high-tech gadgets, and artificial intelligence, yet the one thing that still confuses mankind, is the concept of true love. The big problem is that people tend to blame society and others, but do they actually look deeper within themselves to figure out what their own flaws are? No wonder the aliens have not arrived yet, the silly humans can’t even deal with their own crap, let alone ET.

Do you have the guts to look at yourself and admit any of this: Do you always like to be right, and win an argument? Do you always want to be in control? Is your opinion always the right one, because you think you know better? Do you let your emotions control you, and create dramas or scenes? Do you make a big deal out of small things? Do you like to argue? Is it hard for you to compromise? Do you protect yourself too much? Do you think people want to hurt you? Do you feel that people don’t understand you? Do you have strong hurts from the past that you are still holding onto? Are you still attached to your ex long after the relationship is over? Do you lose your temper often? Do you get angry fast? Are you hard to get along with? Do you take people for granted? Do you get offended or hurt easily by what people say? Do you have a weak character? Are you too sensitive, or not sensitive enough? Are you greedy? Are you selfish and egoistic? Do you use people? Do you play with people’s feelings? Do you speak bad about and hurt others? Do you only take and not give back? Do you overanalyze situations too much? Are you a pessimist? Are you jealous? You must be extremely honest with yourself and see where your problem is, otherwise you will never be truly happy. I will be open to you dear readers and say that at least three of the above used to affect me. One day I decided to be brutally honest with myself, and stop this torture. My own foolish behavior was killing me. I decided to work on myself to become a better person, and give true love a chance to find me and enrich my life.

No one is born perfect, but you must improve yourself in order to deserve true love! Life is about learning and growing. I call it self-evolution. Be yourself without being afraid that your “true self” will scare your partner away. Open yourself to giving and receiving from others. Take care of yourself. Work on your self-esteem. When a man sees/feels that a woman respects and treats herself well, he will in return respect and treat her with kindness and care! When you are happy, he will be happy too!

Look back at all your relationships and figure out the pattern. Where have you been wrong? What could you have done better? Learn from your mistakes! Perhaps you have chosen the wrong partners? Do not date the same “types” anymore. Try meeting different people that you would not normally even pay attention to. Don’t concentrate too much on their appearance. Soften your body language and do not be too defensive, not everyone is out there to hurt you. Sorry girls, Superman is a myth. Your true love will not fly in through your bedroom window, so make an effort to go out and meet new people. Try the gym, bookstore, grocery store, café, bar, cooking school, oldtimer car event, art/music classes, galleries, museums, etc.

Open your heart to others and be surprised. I know this is one of the hardest things to do, especially if you have been hurt in the past! This takes a lot of strength and courage. Many people tend to become cynical and bitter after they have been hurt. However, only the strong can get up, dust themselves off and have the courage to open up to love again. Fact is: if you wont open up anymore, you will never have a chance to meet your true love. We have all been hurt, but would you rather be safe and stay alone, or take a chance and meet someone wonderful?

Surround yourself with positive people that are seeking out the goodness in life. We all have those friends that love to complain and gossip how awful men are, that they are all the same bastards and only want one thing from you. No, not all men are jerks that just want sex. Not all women are superficial and only run after the man’s wallets. Please try to stay away from such negative people and drama. These “friends” influence a thinking pattern that you are a victim to bad men/women that will only want to hurt you. Instead, surround yourself with happy, strong, positive and life-loving people, and they might even have a good friend to set you up with.

Desperation is the key to failure, hurt and pain. Even if you have been single for years, do not date someone that is bad to you, just for the sake of being in a relationship. Be honest with yourself how good s/he is for you? Better single and happy, than with a partner that makes you feel miserable!

Communicate your needs, thoughts and feelings. S/he is most likely not a psychic. If something is bothering you, say it. Even if you think it’s embarrassing, say it. Do not be afraid to loose him/her. If it’s true love, you will not lose them. You will only gain their respect by being able to talk about and sharing your thoughts, opinions and problems. The trick to finding true love is by first working on yourself and making sure that you truly deserve it! It’s always easy to point fingers at others, but look at yourself first! Believe me, I have gone through this myself, once you face the truth and work on your flaws to become a better person, true love will find you. Remember my words. Good luck!

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