Galia Brener

On my way home on Friday night, I bumped into a curious old little man on the street. He looked at me, and his eyes were bright yellow. I jumped back, shocked by this weird vision. He smiled strangely at me and said, “Thy inquisitiveness has been noticed. Magic upon magic. Soul upon soul, from body to body, in your control. You have 2 and 4 hours.” And then he quickly walked away, almost as if he was floating. Usually in Frankfurt you would think that it’s one of the lovey local crack dealers pitching you a sales campaign. However, this man was different, almost as if he came from another dimension. I laughed about it, and went home to sleep.

I woke up on Saturday, but something felt different. I got up, and felt that I was taller! The floor looked further away than usual. My feet were huge, and hairy! I ran to the bathroom to look at myself in the mirror, but on the way, I felt something big dangling between my legs. I took off my pants, looked down and was in total shock! Could I have still been sleeping? I pinched myself, and started screaming. Damn! I had so much strength in my hands, incredible! I got to the bathroom and looked at myself in the mirror. In the reflection I saw a very handsome man. I had dark long hair, and deep blue eyes, with tiny sunshines around the irises. I guessed that I was about 2 meters tall, and 30 years old. My body was strong and muscular. The friend between my legs was quite impressive as well. I immediately had the urge to touch myself, almost like an automatic reaction. I looked into my eyes in the mirror and could not believe it. How could this possibly happen? I couldn’t stop looking at myself. I was drop-dead gorgeous! I was exactly the type of man the female me would fall for!

I went back to bed, almost hitting my head on the doorframe, laughing hysterically. Maybe if I would fall asleep again, and wake up, everything would be normal. Two hours later, I woke up with my right hand on my large hard penis. It was still there. I started rubbing it up and down, and it felt incredible! Instantly I understood why men are so fascinated by their penises! No wonder they touch it constantly! The penis is magical… endless upon endless hours of fun! I rubbed it harder and a bit faster, the sensation was incomparable to anything I have ever felt before. As I felt myself reaching an orgasm, it was like launching a rocket into space… 3, 2, 1 lift off! Wow! That was phenomenal! I did it again right after. This time with my left hand, but it felt strange, so I switched back to the right one. After my hot self-sex session, I was curious to see what it felt like to pee standing up. Bad idea. I couldn’t control the hose that well.

I went to get dressed and surprise surprise! Even my clothing was replaced with male ones! I put on a pair of tight black Boss boxer briefs, and moved my package to the left. Now I knew why men constantly shift their penises and testicles around. Strange, because it felt comfortable only in a certain way and position. The right side felt so unnatural to me. I was a leftie. Again, my hand reached down to my penis, which was growing by the second. It became as hard as metal! I got side tracked again for another hour. Finally I managed to leave my flat without touching my penis anymore.

I was a sexy man on a mission: 1. Walk around the city as a man, and flirt with women 2. Meet an attractive woman to have sex with, to see what it feels like as a man 3. Go to the guys who hurt me badly in the past, and beat the hell out of them!

As I walked down the street, I noticed how many women, and even some men were looking at me. It’s incredible how much attention a handsome man gets! It felt great flirting with beautiful women along the way. Just a little smile from me lit up their faces. Man, it’s so easy to be a guy! I don’t understand why men complain that they have it hard when flirting with women. It’s so simple. Be friendly, respectful, smile and say “Hello”. No need for cheesy pickup lines. I was being so bad. I was flirting with almost every woman that crossed my path. It was great! I felt such a power rush! Slowly I made my way to the bank where my ex boyfriend worked. It was time to show him what pain feels like. I know that violence doesn’t solve problems, but I couldn’t resist experiencing what it felt like being a guy and punching another guy, especially an asshole that hurt me so much! I knew where he ate his lunch. Same place everyday. How exciting. From a distance I saw him coming out of the restaurant. It was show time!

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Dear ladies, we live in a time when you can and should date like a man. You hear so many stories about men dating different girls in one week, and taking their time being single. Well, you know what? You can do the same thing without worrying about being called a slut. If the guys are considered “James Bond” because they date many women, well now consider yourself as the sexy “Catwoman” by having a few parallel handsome options as well!

Sorry gentlemen, but you pushed us into it. If you can date around, so can we. No, this doesn’t make us cheap. No, we don’t sleep with every man we go on a date with. Just like you, we would like to keep our options open in finding the very best for ourselves. Why should you gentlemen be the only ones who can enjoy a nice wine tasting without ruining your reputation? Well ladies, it’s time to go on a Champagne tasting adventure… if you know what I mean!

Jilli and Heather were enjoying their usual girl’s night out in the city. The sun was setting, and the weather was warm enough to walk around naked. The girls were sipping a gin tonic on the rooftop of a trendy Frankfurt lounge. It was filled with beautiful men and women, prancing around in their best outfits, waiting to get noticed. Of course many had their “Serious-Cool-Frankfurt-Faces” on, but deep inside they wanted to meet someone special – even though some would never admit this. Jilli was telling Heather a story of another new guy she met, went out with, and decided not to date anymore. Heather’s reaction was the same as usual. She screamed, “Jilli! Again?! But he was a good guy! Why don’t you give him a proper chance?” It’s not as if Jilli was turned off by “nice guys”. Quite the opposite actually. Jilli did want a good, caring, sweet, honest, charming man – but the one that she would click with.

“Aha Man” was not the right one for her. Jilli did not feel the passion and chemistry – the “Click”. She knew deep in the bottom of her stomach that he was not the one! All her friends, including Heather, thought that she was crazy for not dating him. They couldn’t understand why. However, Jilli knew that the right one will come. She had faith. She believed in fairytales. She decided to continue dating other men. Exactly three weeks after, on a boat in Frankfurt, she met her true love. Had she not listened to her gut feeling, and stayed with Aha Man, she would not be free and open to meet her true love.

Back at the lounge with Heather, three weeks before the boat evening, Jilli attempted to convince her girlfriend that women should try dating like men. Jilli was dating like a man. She liked meeting new people and enjoyed the evenings out. She wanted to have fun! She did not sleep with them all. She simply went out with the men she met, in order to find out if any of them were the right ones. Unfortunately they were not. Heather couldn’t understand that. Heather believed in dating for weeks and weeks, and then realizing that the man was not a good match. Heather wasted her time, nerves, money and patience on the wrong men. Giving someone a chance is good, but when it’s obvious that the connection is wrong, why continue and torture each other?

Girls take your time and date. Do not worry what people think of you. I always say that one must chose wisely and make a good decision about whom they marry. Dating more men will show you what you want, and don’t want in a partner. Consider it like gathering information by reading many books, and taking cars out for a test drive, until you find the car you want. If women would not be judged by society for dating like men, would we do it more often? Why do women get labeled “easy”, when all they want is to meet a nice guy, and not waste any time with the wrong one? I say bloody hell to all of those people that label you! Go ahead and date as many men as you like – even at the same time – until you meet the right one.

Of course dating around also means that you get to have wild, pulse-stopping sexcapades and exciting adventures, all over the city. However, I would advise you to keep this to yourself. Not everyone will understand, and not everyone will be happy for you. There is a lot of jealousy out there, so you do not need to attract this evil into your life. People love to judge and gossip. Tell your best friend, but for the rest, you should stay a mystery.

Girls, date around like a man. Live and love, do what makes you happy. Do what’s good for you. As long as you are respectful to others and your body, then you are good. The only one that can judge you, is you. So please, do not be so hard on yourself. We have reached a time when the world has gone a bit “cuckoo”. Do you want to stay with a crazy man that will make your life insane? No. Do you want to waste time on some player that doesn’t even know he has a living beating heart inside of his own body? No. So do yourself a favor and date a few different men, until you meet the one that’s right for you. If they can do it, then why the hell can’t we? After all, girls should want to have fun! So go ahead, you have my blessing.

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It brings me joy to see that we are living in a time where people are taking care of themselves. We practice healthy lifestyles. We watch what we eat, buy organic food, take care of our bodies, and do yoga for the soul. However, it seems that one huge part is being neglected. The healthier the world is becoming, the more messed up our relationships are.

When was the last time you heard from friends how happy and healthy their relationships are? It’s time to create a magical organic love yogurt. As soon as it’s eaten, people become instantly enlightened that cheating is disgusting, lying destroys, and flirting with someone else’s husband is a very bad thing! Come on organic food companies; give us this magical yogurt already!

Speaking of healthy, or rather, unhealthy relationships, I have three stories for you. My friend Jilli was forced to go to a grungy hippie party. She was the only one wearing heels there, so it was looks all around when she came in. Drinking was the only way to survive this thing, so she went to the bar. On her way, she bumped into a guy that was not her type. Blonde hair – not in the cleanest state, average height, wearing a ragged hoodie. Their eyes locked, and she felt a strange rough passion build up inside her. She felt the wetness between her legs, and the flush on her cheeks. “Mattress-Guy”, who is in the Frankfurt advertising world, said hello. One thing led to another, and they ended up outside, kissing wildly. They dated the weeks after, and Jilli invited him to an event she organized. He came, and brought her a little good luck present, which was a sweet gesture. Unfortunately while Jilli was not looking, he exchanged numbers with a beautiful model, who happens to be Jilli’s friend. A week after, Mattress-Guy and Jilli went for dinner and he told her that he wrote the model. Jilli felt the familiar pain in her stomach. This meant that she already fell for him. Son-of-a-!! He admitted he made a mistake and promised to have eyes only for her. Jilli knew that he was lying, but could not break up with him. She wanted him so much, and needed their hot passionate sex! She shut her eyes on this situation, and they continued dating. Jilli kept on having horror dreams about Mattress-Guy giving it hard to the model. A few weeks after, they were supposed to go on a ski trip to St. Moritz. Jilli came over to Mattress-Guy’s flat, all prepared for the drive. He looked at her, and simply said that she is not going, because he is taking a friend instead. Jilli ran out of there, loosing her wits on her run home over the river Main. He tried to get Jilli back, but she avoided the danger. She hated him – but was secretly still in love with him! What a messed up character he is. Mattress-Guy still hurts innocent women in Frankfurt. Even the magical organic love yogurt will not help him anymore. He is a lost soul.

A second good friend of mine, Heather Klein, was dating a guy (Mad Hatter) on and off for a few years. A friend introduced them; let’s call her “She Monster.” Heather knew that She Monster dated the crazy Mad Hatter long ago, and was quite surprised that she introduced them. Things began quite well. She Monster was encouraging them to date, and “appeared” genuinely happy for them. After a while, heather noticed that something was not right. The She Monster became very vicious to her, suddenly pushing the Mad Hatter away from Heather. He was slowly turning into an evil creature. It seemed that he was either possessed by the devil, or had a loose screw. Little did she know, that the screw was extremely loose! One day the Mad Hatter disappeared into thin air and did not contact Heather for weeks. Worried to death, she did not know what to do. Poor Heather cried the entire time! The Mad hatter reappeared in Frankfurt a few weeks later, with a new Princess of Darkness by his side, freshly brainwashed out of a clinic. A few months later, the princess was seen renting a room alone, and the Mad Hatter was on the hunt for Heather again. This dark evil soul did not release her. Until one day, Heather decided that enough is enough! Finally she closed the chapter in her Alice in Wonderland story.

The third story from the cuckoo closet: Claudia dated a “Wanna-be-bad-a**-fake-over-the-hill-rocker”. She met him at a chic club-opening event, go figure! They hit it off well, and she enjoyed running around with a pseudo rebel-looking guy beside her. He was quite charming to her. He treated her to nice dinners, and they enjoyed spending time together. Claudia thought that maybe they could actually have a future together! One evening they went to a glamorous fashion event in Frankfurt, and her friend took photos and posted them on Facebook. A few days after, Claudia received a call from an acquaintance of hers. He wanted to talk to her, and so they met for lunch. After the bill was paid, he dropped the bomb on her. Apparently the pseudo rocker is his ex’s boyfriend! They even live together. Claudia thought that she will die on the spot. Her heart was shattered by the silver bullet that just hit her! Claudia called the balding pseudo rocker, and asked if this was true. His answer was quite simple: “Yes, I have a girlfriend, but what does this have to do with us?” He didn’t understand why Claudia was so heartbroken! Furthermore, he was angry that his girlfriend found out, and that he had to deal with drama at home. Pure insanity.

It’s harder to find a healthy relationship than a healthy junkie on the street. Maybe this health-craze has made us all insane? We worry so much about our jobs, and the scare of living “healthy”, that we neglect the very basic human need for healthy relationships. Who the hell is completely physically and psychologically healthy these days? You can see a perfectly toned man at the gym, but inside his heart and soul might be rotten like Lucifer himself. Same goes for the female version. So let’s throw out the fake, over-priced organic bananas, and start being healthy from the inside out: by choosing healthy relationships, and being happy! It’s still out there, true love does exist! I am not one to play “Know-It-All”, because I write from experience. Why? Because one of the above stories is mine… can you guess which one it is? ;-)

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This goes out to our emotional ones. Fortunately and unfortunately I belong to this group. Fortunately because us sensitive types feel emotions quite deeply, are compassionate, empathetic, and caring. Unfortunately because we take things too closely to the heart, get hurt very easily and sometimes carry the sorrows of the world upon our shoulders. We tend to worry a lot, get offended quite easily, and in general, allow people to hurt us. The way I see it is that we emotional/sensitive types have a big karmic lesson to learn: to take things easier, and be able to let go when needed!

What do I mean by “Let it go?” For example, you hear that someone said something bad about you. Or when you have an argument with your partner, you might be tempted to go on fighting until s/he realizes that you are right, and not them. You do something really wonderful for someone, and they don’t appreciate it. You have a fight with your mom or best friend, your boss screams at you, you get shoved on the train, and almost fall down. The guy you really like has not called back in over two weeks. Whatever the case is, it upsets you. Perhaps like myself, you might have difficulties to let things go. I know that sometimes a situation can hurt me very much, and this will sit for quite a long time in my heart, and keep me sad for days and weeks.

I think it’s time to turn on the survival instincts, and learn to let thing go easier. Whether we like it or not, keeping all of this crap inside our hearts only hurts and damages us more. By keeping this nonsense within us, we only give more power to those that gossip about us, hurt us, and try to bring us down. I have no clue why people consciously try to hurt others for no reason – especially bitchiness and gossip between women! What I do know is that if we continue to take this too personally, and allow this to hurt/damage us, then these bullies end up winning.

My friend Jilli had a horrible female stalker, let’s call her the old New Witch. This Witch verbally attacked her in public, trying to sabotage Jilli’s career and fame. The New Witch is a sad and pathetic case. She is bitter because of her own tragic failures. She lost man after man in her life due her own psychotic hysterics, she has no female friends, half of Frankfurt hates her, and she gets worse every year. She cheats with other people’s husbands! She simply lost her mind many years ago, and cannot get back to reality. One day, she heard of Jilli and her success, and the jealousy started to eat the New Witch from the inside out! She wants what Jilli has. The crazy thing is that this psycho doesn’t even know Jilli!! The old witch even “threatened” to seduce her handsome boyfriend, which made Jilli laugh and almost fall off the couch. This old witch has nothing left anymore. She hangs on a thin thread of sadness, jealousy, bitterness, and knows that in a few years, it will be over for her. Let it go old witch! She lived an evil life, being bad to everyone, and now she gets it all back.

“In one ear, and out of the other” – I admire people that can let things go easily. In my case, it goes into one ear, travels through to the brain, and starts an entire emotional dialogue with the heart. After the heart has registered the hurt, it travels to my stomach, where it gives me pain, and after a while, when the damage is done, it slowly disappears through tears. It’s time to cut the crap and nonsense out of our lives. What about leaving emotions and feelings for the positive things in our lives? The bad ones did not deserve this kindness from us. Let them rot in hell where they belong. We are children of the light, and this dirt shall not touch us anymore. I have also observed that when involved in a discussion, sometimes you have to be the smarter one and stop. If you see that the other is not open to communication, then give it up, and let the topic rest. You can always make your point at a later time, when emotions have calmed down.

People like this lonely New Witch can be found all over the world. They come as a test for us to see how we deal with such creatures and situations. They will try to tease, hurt, harass, manipulate, and test us. So how will we react? Will we allow them to bother us? Or rather, do we laugh at them and go on? Evil does not like smiles. This aggravates it! Never give into its temptations. Don’t react, and do not let it seep into your heart. Block it immediately with a smile. When you do this, the evil has not chance to go further. Smile, turn around and walk away. “Be Teflon”, and let this dirty negativity slide right off of you. Don’t even bother letting it into the one ear. My best friend Leo says the best action is no reaction whatsoever.

By letting go, it does not mean that you are being weak, and allowing the other to win and take control. Quite the opposite actually. By letting go, you are being smart, and loving yourself. You are protecting yourself from useless waste. You put yourself beyond it, and not allow it/him/her to hurt you. You are the smarter one. What do you think? Is it worth to take this garbage into your heart, and let it hurt you, or does it pay off to just let it go? And will letting go help you to move on and become stronger? These are the mysteries of our mind and soul. I guess no one has the perfect answer, but you can protect yourself by cutting out and ignoring what you don’t need in your life.

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After spending long hours observing people in different places and situations, it occurred to me: why are so many people not smiling anymore? I constantly see depressed, angry and dissatisfied faces on the streets, trains, restaurants, etc. Not often do I see happy faces with genuine, bright and big smiles. Where did those open, heart-warming smiles that melt-the-worries away, disappear to? Is smiling out, or are people scared of wrinkles? I think it’s time to bring joy and happiness back on the menu!

Have you noticed that happiness is rarely a topic of conversation these days? How many times lately did you meet up with friends and hear stories about something bad happening? How often do you hear stories about amazing wonderful things happening to others that truly inspire you? Unfortunately these days, we encounter more negativity than positivity. Look around you next time on the street and observe people’s face… it’s as if they have grown a permanent frown!

We all have baggage and problems that we have to deal with, along with the normal daily grind, but how do we want to go through the process? Depressed, or positively motivated to find a good solution? Can it be that we are subconsciously blocking our happiness? Lately I have heard over 100 conversations about how awful the weather is. They use the bad weather as an excuse to be grumpy. The rain is not so bad. Try opening your window, lying in bed, and listening to the rain coming down. It’s very soothing, therapeutic and quite lovely. We must try to make the unpleasant things in life somehow manageable for us. We must learn to love ourselves. By the way, don’t worry, the sun has not left the Universe, it is just waiting for all of us to stop complaining.

A good friend of mine, let’s call him Mr. Chillax, recently lost his company, went through insolvency, suffered through a breakup, and lost most of his money. This was a huge shock to him. What would you do in his case? Well, Mr. Chillax walked around with a smile upon his handsome face. He was not in denial or pushing the truth away, quite the opposite, he decided not to give up. I was so impressed with his heroic behavior. I prepared myself for the worse with him, and he surprised us all by showing us how dear his life was to him. He earned my respect forever! It’s much harder to stay positive during tough times, rather than falling into the deep, dark hole that starts in your mind, and ends up sucking you into the hell fires of depression. Now Mr. Chillax has a wonderful job, a loving girlfriend, and is slowly saving for the future. I think that everything happened for a reason, because his life is much better now than it was when he had his company. He was rewarded because he stayed strong and did not lose his faith during the hard times!

Sometimes plans do not work out as we intended them to be, we lose our savings and/or businesses, not to mention jobs we love so much. We go through breakups, divorces and illnesses. We get used and accused, judged and beaten by life. We undergo suffering, pain and sometimes even humiliation. So how do you want to deal with all of this crap? The way I see it is that we only really have two options. 1. We dwell upon our pain/sadness and feel sorry for ourselves, waiting for the pity of others. (This turns us into our own victims.) Or: 2. We make a choice to be happy and fight for ourselves. A friend of mine, Leo, always say, “Pity you can get for free, but jealousy must be earned.”

Even if the soul doesn’t want to laugh, there are tricks to keep us happy: eating your favorite food, and not counting calories, spoiling yourself with a tiny little gift, meeting up with your best friend for a delicious glass of apple wine, taking time for your hobbies, etc. Do whatever makes you happy. What works for me – especially if I’m in a bad/sad mood – is to put on my favorite song, and force myself to dance and sing like crazy! At first it feels strange, but then I get into a good mood! This is the Law of Attraction: happiness attracts happiness. Sometimes you must force yourself to think happy thoughts and feel happiness, in order to attract more of it into your life. Its either this, or let yourself sink in misery. The choice is really yours. Fight for yourself, and make yourself happy. This doesn’t mean that you must push your problems away. This means that you have to make a plan to attack your problems with a positive attitude!

I was going through a break up a few years ago, and was feeling awful. My heart was torn into a million pieces. I was moping around my flat for weeks. I did not want to go out, or see anyone. I was comfortable in my sanctuary at home in my pink pyjama. My mom came to visit me and started screaming at me. I was so shocked! I thought: why the hell is she being so mean to me? I am going through such an emotionally hard time. She is making me feel even worse! She said, “Galia, it’s enough! How much longer will you sit here crying for a man that did not even appreciate you? No one died! Go wash your hair, put on something nice, we are going out!” I tried to resist, but my mom wouldn’t accept it. I was forced to make myself look human again and leave the flat. This was the best thing that could of happened to me. My mom said that being a good friend doesn’t mean to give pity, but rather to kick ass/motivate and help. “You poor thing” and crying together wont help! You must force yourself/friends to move on and be happy again! This is called survival, and loving yourself. Let’s try to make the effort to be happy. How can we start? With a beautiful, genuine, and warm smile!

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Love is a wonderful thing, because it inspires one to be the best they can be. However, love alone is not enough to fuel the flames of a relationship. For this, love’s best friend “Communication” must come in and do it’s support work.

Will we fight for love, or has the world become completely cynical? Unfortunately today, more people tend to break up, rather than fight for their love. It’s almost as if we are losing our energy and willpower to hold onto this concept. Giving it up and resting for a bit sounds like a true relief. “So what?” we think, surely the next one, or even a better one shall come along? However, that is not always the case. When did we lose our ability to open our mouths and communicate to our partner what we need, feel and think?

An acquaintance of mine, lets call her Carla, is married to a national football player. When they first met, they were crazy about each other. They had wild passionate sex in every place imaginable! After a while, the sex went from everyday, to twice a week, and eventually twice a month. It was horrible! Carla felt rejected and unattractive. This pushed her to do strange diets, which made her walk around constantly hungry and aggressive. Her self-esteem literally vanished, and she even considered some unnecessary plastic surgery to make her husband hungry for her again! One day, we were having lunch, and I told her to sit down and talk to him like she was doing with me. I told her to pretend that he is just her friend, and spill her guts out to him. Carla was horrified at this idea, thinking that he will use her honesty against her in some future argument, or that he will think that she is weak and pathetic. I said if that’s the case, then she has nothing to lose, and must talk to him. So finally she had the nerves to do this. After a bottle of Barolo, Carla opened up her heart to him. She told him things that she never told another living soul! She told him about her insecurity and fear of losing him. He was sure that yet another hysterical fit will start at any minute, but it didn’t. Her honest and calm way of speaking both surprised him, and deeply touched his heart. He admitted to her that he was depressed because she always walked around the house angry, and didn’t seem to notice him at all anymore. Plus she lost so much weight, and he missed her curvier figure. Carla was so happy to hear this! At the end, both were suffering from the same reason. Lack of communication and openness! Ever since that conversation, they have kept their communication lines open, and are happier now than ever! They saved their love!

Many reasons influence the lack of communication with partners. Perhaps the fear of losing your partner affects your willingness for open talking, or not wanting to argue, yet again? For example, you two are going out for dinner and you make yourself beautiful. He comes home after a long day at work, gets ready for the dinner, and doesn’t comment on how fabulous you look. You ask yourself, “Why doesn’t he compliment me anymore?” This makes you sad. You are quieter than usual the entire dinner, and he senses the tension between you. He asks what’s wrong, and you say…”Nothing.” Ladies, we have all been there. Maybe not in this exact situation, but we have all been guilty of saying, “Nothing is wrong”, when in reality, you want to hit him on the head with your purse, like those grandmothers in the classic movies. Wouldn’t it be nice if men were really as psychic as we wish them to be? In reality, they have no clue what the hell is going on in our heads when we say, “Nothing is wrong”, while we are boiling inside. Of course it’s easier to go and complain to our friends about him, but this will not solve the problem. Instead, take the situation into your hands and do something about it. Tell him what’s wrong…

With every unshared misunderstanding, you add “frustration drops” into an invisible bucket. Eventually it gets too full, and starts spilling over, until it floods everything. Meaning, all the crap adds up, until it eventually blows up into a huge argument, which may lead to a separation. The worst is talking about personal things like bodily hygiene, money issues, illnesses, criticism, etc. But in order for the relationship to work, you must find the strength within you to address such issues. Open communication does not equate to personal attacks. Try to tell him how you feel in a calm and rational manner. I made the observation and experience that men simply shut down at displays of unruly emotions, extreme bitchiness, hysterics, screams and accusations. If you start the conversation with, “We need to talk”, then consider their system shut down immediately. Pick a time when both are in a good mood, have a drink together, and start the conversation in a calm and collected way. Do not do this directly after a fight, because both sides are angry, and open communication will not work. Hurtful words will be said because that’s when the evil ego is at its strongest. Wait until the emotions and temper have cooled down. Never attack. Speak calmly with respect and confidence.

You should be able to communicate well with your partner, and share your sorrows. Santa Clause won’t help you, really, I tried that. He just shrugged. The nerve of the grey bearded-man! Open your mouth and talk. Try to get over the stupid ego and open yourself up to your partner. If they truly love you, they wont judge you. By the way, same rules apply for friendships, work situations, family, etc. Be the smart one, and start a new path of open communication with the ones you love. It’s worth it! Besides, you will see what a huge relief it is to share your thoughts, feeling and fears. Learn to communicate openly, and the world shall be yours!

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