May 2014

Galia Brener
May 30, 2014
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Better single than to be together with an idiot

Better single than to be together with an idiot https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Gali_feature_flower.jpg 1354 437 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 30, 2014 November 5, 2016

If you happen to be single right now, you probably have a few moments that pass by when you feel lonely, or might be longing for love and affection. The good news is that this is absolutely normal!

No, you are not desperate or pathetic! Every human being wants to be loved and cherished. It’s human nature to want to have someone by your side to lean on and love, rather than being alone. However, sometimes having “someone” by your side comes with a price that you might not want to pay. The question is, how much negativity are you willing to take just so that you are in a relationship, and not alone? Keep in mind that being single does not necessarily mean being “alone”.

My close friend Claudia went through something which proved that being single is not as bad at it may sound. She was together with her ex for a few years. When they first met, it was love at first sight. She was absolutely sure that he was her soulmate, and the man that she has been waiting her entire life for. In the beginning he romanced and charmed her beyond belief. He did everything to make her his woman, and spent every spare moment he had with her. Of course she was on cloud nine because she never thought that love could be this wonderful and intense. After only a few months, they moved in together, and she couldn’t believe how lucky she was. All her friends said that they were a dream couple. He was tall, blonde and handsome, and she looked like a fair princess beside him, also quite tall with dark brown hair and a beautiful slim figure. Wherever they went, heads would turn everywhere, and all of the attention was always on them. They were literally like a couple out of a fairytale.

The first year went by wonderfully, but towards the end of the year, the fights have started and they had unfortunate miscommunication issues. Both of them were very proud and admitting their fault was quite difficult. He was 10 years older than her, and had a nasty stubborn attitude at times. As the second year went by, it got to a point where he was simply mean to her. He didn’t respect her opinion anymore, and didn’t advise with her on the important things in his life, which made her feel stupid and useless. He didn’t want to cuddle with her, and the sex became very rare. He was quickly annoyed and aggravated by her words, and kept her on a very short leash, always getting moody when he didn’t like something. It became intolerable to live with him. She cried very often, and they got to the point where they fought every day. All she wanted was some love and attention back from him, but the more effort she made to get closer to him, the more he backed off. It seemed like he was not planning her into his life anymore. He was simply shutting her out, and just didn’t seem to love her anymore. He said there was no one else, but she never really found out. Eventually they broke up, and her heart was shattered into miniscule pieces. She heard that a few months later, he had already found a new woman – an unattractive grey mouse that didn’t even come close in comparison with her!

As hard as it was for Claudia, she was forced to move on. I told her to take her time, and find peace inside of her heart again, but she was desperate to move on quickly, and avoid being alone. I told her that she was not alone – she had her family and friends. But no, she wanted a new boyfriend as soon as possible just to avoid being single at all costs. And so she met a new guy. When she introduced him to us, I felt that there was something not honest about him. He was incredible good looking, but that seemed to be the only thing he had going for him. It turned out that I was right, because he was a player. He didn’t make enough time to see her, only once a week. Every time she wrote him, it would take him a day or three to answer. He made it a habit to disappear on the weekends, and never invited her to join him. He didn’t invite her with his friends, and she never met his family. She was even more miserable being stuck with the second man now who was simply not good enough for her. I told her to leave him behind and come back to herself again. She needed time for her emotions to stabilize again so that she could be happy, healthy and strong just by being single, and not desperately needing a man by her side.

Ladies and gentlemen, trust me, it’s better being single than together with an idiot that doesn’t respect, love or deserve you. And even after a breakup, take the time to be on your own, rather than jump on the next “thing” that comes along. Take the time to enjoy your life, meet your friends, spend time with your family, travel, take care of your body, and do the things you never had time for when you were in a relationship. There is really no need to rush – and take just “anyone” who is much below your standards. I have heard of men who take a complete opposite of their ex girlfriend – someone who might be a more “motherly-figure”, older, not so pretty or dynamic, who doesn’t care about her appearance and food consumption. Many men downgrade into a comfort zone to get over an ex that they couldn’t keep up with, or live in her shadow. That’s really sad. So my suggestion is to really take your time and not rush into something that’s only half decent than you are used to. Enjoy being single, and your fabulous life! Do yourself a favor – don’t ever settle for second best!

Galia Brener
May 27, 2014
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The delicious 4-hour love affair (3 Michelin Stars + Brioni)

The delicious 4-hour love affair (3 Michelin Stars + Brioni) https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Gali_feature_Amador.jpg 1354 437 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 27, 2014 March 16, 2015

I never cease to be amazed at how much our little “big” city has to offer! Just when you think that you have seen it all here, another cool thing suddenly appears, and shocks you in the most positive way! Last week Frankfurt showed me that not only do the luxurious Italians love us, but also our very own stars have magic surprises to keep the suspense, mystery and love alive in this fabulous city.

Have you ever had a complete love affair within 4 hours? I am talking about the real deal starting from the meeting, getting to know each other, wild sex, a few dramas and then a separation – all within 4 hours?! I have never experienced this either until I stepped into the Restaurant Amador. When we arrived, we found ourselves in front of a heavy massive door with a large metal “A” cut out of metal, positioned as the door handle. There were lights on both sides, but the rest of the huge industrial building was pitch dark! If you are a David Lynch fan like myself, imagine the entrance to the Club Silencio in his movie Mulholland Drive, and you will get the mysterious feeling of Amador’s beautiful entrance.

Unlike the outside, everything inside was white with slight red accents. I like large bright white rooms, so I felt very comfortable there right away. We were greeted by a beautiful woman who showed us to our table. As the first glass of pink cava was served, I realized that sitting there felt like being in a room in outer space. It was as if time has slowed down! The fascinating thing was that the staff was walking so lightly and quietly on their feet – that they looked like angels floating around the room. Hence the feeling was as if gravity was removed from the room – a very fascinating experience!

Many would describe Amador’s food creations as art – but it is so much more than that. For me the food itself was a 4-hour love affair! The 14-course menu started off with delicate little tree sculptures. I thought it was a unique decoration at first, and then I realized that it was the first dish to eat! What an imagination one must have to make something so fine and beautiful that is also edible! With this “Tree of Hope” the affair had begun! Like with any love affair I got to know the object of my affection – in this case – the menu, dish by dish. The taste was like nothing I had tried before. There were many mixes of sweet and salty – which created the drama and spice needed for the passion to burn – like untamed sex on the kitchen floor! The height of the affair was the langoustine and goose liver, which was served in the shape of a Lego piece. Along with this delicacy came dishes that included morello cherry with joselito, scallops, morel with cecina de león, pork belly with pineapple, Lamb in an enclosed glass ball, cured cheese, and much more! The big bang came at the very end, in the form of a rock garden. Ever since I was a child, I was always asking my mom for salty cereal with salty milk. Strange, I know but I am a lover of salt. To my delight, the biggest piece of the rock garden was made out of pistachio ice cream… and guess what? It was a salty ice cream! A dream come true for me, which I have been wishing for over 20 years now! It was a wild experience ending with an oral orgasm, where the taste buds were stimulated with such unusual delicious flavors and sensations! The wine was flowing all night, and the laughter in the room and happy atmosphere were making this a truly remarkable experience.

I looked at my watch and saw that it was midnight, and so the 4-hour love affair was coming to an end. I didn’t want the evening to finish, but like Cinderella in her fairytale, it was time to bid our farewell and go. We left the Restaurant Amador in its entire splendor, and stepped into the warm night air. This love affair is one that I will not forget anytime soon! Juan Amador was awarded 3 Michelin stars for his exquisite creations, but if it were up to me, I would present him with all of the Michelin stars in the sky.

Like with any fantastic week, this one ended with an Italian fashion escapade to the opening of the Brioni store. Upon our arrival, we were greeted by two gorgeous ladies holding a clipboard, and welcoming us into the store. Delicious cold champagne has found its way to my hand, and so I was ready to check out what makes Brioni so special for men. I was pleasantly surprised at the fine materials and the color selection for this season. The suits and shirts had very stylish, tight-fitted cuts, yet at the same time quite masculine. Of course the Who’s Who of Frankfurt were there, with bright smiles, winks and hellos going around the store. Delicious Hors d’oeuvre were circulated, and the champagne kept making its way back to us. Brioni has clothing only for men, but that didn’t stop me from getting a large white shirt, and wearing a belt around the waist, turning the fancy shirt into a dress. All in all, it was a very exciting and fabulous week. Thank you Juan Amador, Brioni and my love Frankfurt for spoiling me with such delicious beauty, style and joy. I have to say that our little cosmopolitan city has a world of its own to offer, so all you need to do it go out there, explore and enjoy! Life is short boys and girls, so have fun and be happy ❤

Galia Brener
May 16, 2014
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The Evil “Friend”

The Evil “Friend” https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Gali_feature_dreaming.jpg 1354 437 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 16, 2014 March 16, 2015

Be careful whom you let into your life, because some women are cruel, egoistic, conniving, and have an ice block where the heart is meant to be – and they will stop at nothing to get what they want. They are like a vampiric hurricane that storms into your life, sucks out your energy, destroys the love you have with your man, copies your identity and style, spoils your good friendships and contacts, kills your career, ruins your life and “innocently” walks away after. However, can such an evil girlfriend simply get away with such brutal behavior, or will Lady Karma eventually catch her by the hair, and make her wish that she was never born? To all the evil girlfriends out there, rest assured that Karma will always strike back.

This brings me back to a very unfortunate situation that my friend Ambrosia went through last year. She had a good friend whom she has known for many years – let’s call her “GreyMouse”. These two did everything together. They were the classical definition of best friends, and were literally inseparable. One day, Ambrosia met a really wonderful guy. They fell in love quickly, and started a warm, passionate and intense relationship. They had some occasional fights, but the love was quite strong. Strangely though, after Ambrosia met her love, she felt that GreyMouse was acting weird towards her. She felt jealousy and hatred coming from her. She was saying and doing things that hurt her very much, but because Ambrosia has a heart of gold, she let a few things go, keeping in mind that GreyMouse was her “very good friend”. This however had already created a huge warning sign blinking in Ambrosia’s head!

One day the bomb was dropped! After a year and a half of being together with her man, Ambrosia was trying to keep the relationship strong because they had some fights and problems along the way. They were at a very sensitive point, where a drama would destroy their bond. That’s exactly what happened. One evening they went out for dinner in a large group. GreyMouse sat beside Ambrosia’s boyfriend, and she was flirting with him while some funny stories were told. She wrapped her hands around his biceps saying how strong he was, and even poked her finger inside of his shirt, joking about his muscular hairy chest. Ambrosia hated it, but let it go, knowing that she was her good friend. Later on she saw GreyMouse talking to her guy outside, and wondered what the secrecy was all about. As she approached them, she heard GreyMouse saying, “…but you have to know something about Ambro, she likes to argue, have fights and needs drama in her life! She lives on it.” Ambrosia stopped mid-step and felt like the Earth was removed from her feet. What a vicious betrayal! After that sentence, her guy looked at her with completely different eyes. They broke up a month after this scenario, and in their last fight, he said, “GreyMouse was right! You just love to argue and need this drama in your life! I don’t want this anymore.” That hit her like a block of cement on the face! GreyMouse implanted a thought in his head that night, and he subconsciously accepted it as a “fact”. His mind registered: “If her best friend says this about her, then it must be true, because she knows her better than I do, so I will believe it”. Then it was over.

Ambrosia was destroyed for many months after that. She took the breakup very hard and was not able to move past it for a long while. Her heart was shattered into a million pieces! Why the hell did her friend say this awful crap about her to her boyfriend? What was the need to betray her in such a cruel way? But such evil actions never go unpunished. Karma will always fly down to do her job properly. She is a lady on a mission, and she misses nothing and no one! Sometimes it takes a week, sometimes it takes some years, but Karma’s work always gets done! Evil also has a way of functioning like a boomerang – and it will strike back the person that released it in the first place. Ambrosia heard that GreyMouse has some misfortunes in her life. She told me last week that she wishes no one harm, but as we see, Lady Karma always completes her work.

Ladies, please choose carefully who you allow to enter your lives. Not everyone is genuinely happy for you! – Especially not those evil women pretending to be your good friends. Therefore, share as less as possible about your life and relationship details. The less personal information you expose to such snakes, the less jealousy and destruction will occur. Unless it’s a super trusted old friend, otherwise keep your business to yourself! Open up your eyes and pay attention to the small signs and things these people say and do. If you feel that something is not right, it usually isn’t. If you see there is too much jealousy and negativity, the best method is to remove them from you life immediately. Hatred and jealousy should not have a place in your life, and you must not let such people close to you, otherwise you will regret it. Like my Mama always says, “Who needs enemies if one has such evil friends!” So please be careful and look closer at whom your real friends are. Remove poisonous women out of your life – the sooner, the better!

Galia Brener
May 10, 2014
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Brioni Store Opening in Frankfurt

Brioni Store Opening in Frankfurt https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Brioni-Invitation_feature.jpg 1354 437 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 10, 2014 November 9, 2015

I’m looking forward to the Brioni store opening in Frankfurt on May 21st, 2014. I like the little note book they sent with the invitation. The quote “To be one of a kind” fits their style and message to their clients. I will update you on how the event was! Have a great week. Your Gali

Galia Brener
May 9, 2014
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Tinder-licious or a waste of time?

Tinder-licious or a waste of time? https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Feature_Image.jpg 514 193 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 9, 2014 November 5, 2016

Tinder Tinder on the wall, who’s the greatest one of all? No one bloody knows because the app is so full of people and fast that it’s like speed dating on crystal meth! If you think a 2-minute dating interview is quick, then welcome to Tinder – dating at the speed of light. Click, “Nope”, click “Nope”, a fast “Heart” in between and 25 “Nopes” again – all in a matter of 30 seconds! However, do we really want to date faster than a Big Mac is made? Or would we like to go back to the roots and date the old-fashioned way – where people actually took the time and cared to truly get to know each other in a sincere way!

It was a warm spring evening a few weeks ago, and we were drinking Champagne underneath the starry sky in a beautiful castle garden. The wedding invitation came from my friend Cindy, who was the stunning bride, marrying a handsome tall blonde gentleman from Hamburg. A warm wind was gently blowing, the band was mesmerizing us with their music, and the food was an exotic celebration in itself. We saw Cindy rushing towards us, and the beautiful glow on her face was competing with the bright sun. “Gali Gali, I am so happy, it’s the best day of my life! I’m actually marrying my prince charming, so the fairytale does exist! I can’t believe we met on Tinder, can you imagine?!” At the mention of Tinder, I looked up at her with a huge smile on my face, “Ah ha! Gotcha! Cindy you told me that you were introduced to each other through friends.” I had to laugh because the look on her face reminded me of a naughty little girl. “Gali, you always catch me when I least expect it! Yes we met on Tinder but don’t tell anyone please, it’s embarrassing.” I assured her that it’s not embarrassing whatsoever. Who cares how they met as long as they are blessed with true love, that’s what matters. Last week I’ve heard another Tinder success story, so I had to try it out for this article, but let me tell you, it was not all cookies and cream.

My first day I was on Tinder, I saw three boyfriends of girls that I know in Frankfurt. I was shocked beyond belief. I thought maybe the accounts were old, but it said they were online a few hours ago! The second day I spotted two husbands of women that I know as well! Unbelievable, because I thought these couples were extremely happy and hopelessly in love… surprise surprise. I wonder if these women know that their men are flirting and cheating on Tinder? Girls if you want to find out, sign up and see if your guy is there – but be careful what you look for, you might just happen to find it! Hopefully after this article the guys will be scared to get caught, leave Tinder, and stop cheating all together – my romantic wishful thinking of course.

I have come across many men that are there just for fun, and would like a quick affair. What helps is to ask right up front, “What are you looking for on Tinder?” Sometimes after a match was made, some men did not write the initial message. They expect the women to make the first contact. Really guys? No, thank you. I know we live in an age of emancipation, but I’m a bit old-fashioned, and like when the man writes me first. They are hunters so let them hunt! The “Tinder-Attention-Span” is very short – you write for half a day, and if you don’t keep up the conversation, things get forgotten and the connection dies out quickly. Why? Because there are thousands of other people “available” online who are willing to do what you’re not. It’s like children in a candy shop – so many options, why just choose one? Another story is that a woman ordered two men from Tinder to meet her at the same bar, at the same time, but the two guys happened to be close friends! They both showed up, said hello, laughed and walked away – the joke was on her.

I must say that I did chat with a few very nice, warm, intelligent, kind and funny men. I had interesting and deep conversations about life, relationships, adventures, career, goals and dreams. These were the ones that told me right away that they are looking for something real, and not just a quick affair. I was really impressed. However I must admit that I did not meet anyone – even though many wanted to. I’m wary of safety and don’t like to meet strangers. The conclusion of my experiment is that many people are there for fun and “games”. I had to laugh because when you get a match on Tinder, they give you an option to “Send a Message” or “Keep Playing” – so yes, for some it’s just a game to see how many people like them, and how many panties they can take off in one week. For those that are patient enough to keep searching through the profiles, try it for a few weeks and see what happens – you never know – you might be the lucky one to find a real diamond in the rough. My personal opinion is that Tinder is not an option to find true love, because it seems to be quite superficial – click, click, next, next. Nonetheless, it is very entertaining because it’s like ordering sushi online in a restaurant you don’t know, where some of the photos look delicious. When the delivery arrives, you never know if you receive delicious food, or something that looks good on the outside, but tastes horrible when you bite it. Better ask for their Facebook profile, because some photos look much different than the few they post on Tinder. If you’re bored or curious, try it out, but I wouldn’t recommend you to hope to find your true love there. Like Tinder itself says on their app – it’s a “game” – so you are either a player… or the coach! ;-)

Galia Brener
May 2, 2014
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Don’t forget the sex!

Don’t forget the sex! https://www.galiabrener.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Gali_feature_bed.jpg 1354 437 Galia Brener Galia Brener https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/93df0625fa48660aad1c99698d5d7757?s=96&r=g May 2, 2014 November 5, 2016

I’m sure you’re probably thinking to yourself now, what is this lady talking about? Of course I never forget the sex! Sometimes it’s all one thinks about during the day. Funny that while single, we fantasize about it night and day, but when in a relationship – especially a long-term one, the sex can often be neglected. Sex is not only a carnal urge, but also creates closeness and intimacy between two people. The feeling of having someone you love deep inside of you bonds in a way that is different to anything else in a relationship. Making love is a vitamin that keeps your relationship healthy. If the sex vanishes, then the relationship will eventually die as well.

My friend Jilli was dating her ex for almost two years. When they first met the attraction was instantaneous! She told me that they bonded like crazy glue on the first night. They went to a bar, and while telling him a story, she was gently caressing his arm, and he purred like a lion while she did it. It was a subconscious action, and she didn’t even realize that she was touching him. Mid-sentence they looked at each other and both laughed at how natural this felt. Needless to say, it was love at first sight.

They started dating and had very special times together. They became best friends, and opened up their hearts and souls, supported and helped each other. However as much as there was love and kindness, they also had fights and argument that hurt very deeply. These situations could have been avoided if more patience and self-control was practiced, and less attention was paid to personal egos. But they were both temperamental and very proud. The more they fought, the less love they made. It got to a point where Jilli would make moves on him, but he would reject her in bed. This happened over and over again. Jilli tried to bring back the sex in their relationship, but he simply didn’t want to have her. He rejected her many times, and this made her feel ugly and unloved. She started losing weight, until almost nothing was left of her. She felt so distant from him, from his soul. He was pushing her away, telling her that he simply didn’t feel sexual. She was never able to figure out what was inside of his head, and why he didn’t want to make love to her anymore. Towards the end, the sex became so rare, that she was grateful every time he would touch or kiss her. They eventually broke up, and he took a big piece of her heart with him. The love was a very special one for her – it was a big love, a true one. She believes he is her soul mate, even though they are not together anymore. I know that she secretly still thinks about him everyday, she told me this last night.

Gentlemen, if you don’t want your woman’s eyes to wander to that handsome young man standing at the bar beside her, then keep up with your attention and compliments to her. Make her feel like she’s the one and only woman for you. Initiate sex and keep her feeling beautiful and wanted! Ladies, if you want to keep your man around and not wandering, keep yourself interesting sexually for him. Don’t let yourself go, and keep your figure and health as wonderful as when you first met him. I know that after some years, people get used to each other and the passion is not so intense, but this must be worked on. Sex is very important in a relationship, especially since men connect physically! No matter how tired or busy you are, make time for sex at least once a week with your partner. I would suggest trying new spontaneous things, like role-playing: “Doctor it hurts right here, please make it go away…” – you get the point. What always works is to make love in new places – even different places around your own home – on the kitchen floor, in the basement, in the closet. etc. Ladies buy yourself some latex panties and surprise your man with them. He will go nuts! Latex feels amazing against your naked wet body. Get some new sex toys, and try them out together, introducing a new and exciting edge to your love life.

From personal experience, I can share with you that it is important to keep up a good and healthy sex life in a relationship, especially a long-term one. If you noticed that it has been over two weeks since you made love, take your partner and surprise them with something wild and exciting. I can just warn you that if your partner doesn’t get sex at home for a while, s/he might be inclined to look for it somewhere else. Relationships take work, and are not always a piece of cake, so at least keep your love life spicy and alive! Take the time for your partner, and make them feel sexy and desired. Never get lazy when it comes to sex, because remember, there are enough women or men right around the corner that can give your partner what you don’t. Besides, it’s not just for them, having a healthy sex life is beneficial for you. Sex is proven to make you feel healthy, happy and look younger! So after work tonight, take your sweetheart for a nice ride ;-)